I've seen several examples of people who don't settle down for the rest of their lives, whether they have money or not, or whether they're smart or not.
People who have no long-term worries must have near-term worries. Everyone knows this, but how many can really do it?
is still short-sighted, short-sighted, only caring about the immediate gains and losses and emotions, and will not care about what will happen in the future. Just rejoice now, even if there will be a flood in the future.
This may be a deep-rooted human nature, and the gene we have inherited is short-sightedness, and it is better to think too much than to live a good life of pleasure and misconduct.
But this world has always been a contradiction, everything is relative, the so-called happiness gives birth to sorrow, there is no reason to be happy all the time.
If you want to settle down for the rest of your life, it's best to start planning before the age of 40. But as we can see, everyone seems to be living like a year, hoping that they can finally enjoy life without work, and they don't really act at all.
Only a very small number of people, who started planting trees at a very early age, were not until decades later that they were able to sit in the shade and face their old age and death.
Happy lives are all similar, but unhappy lives are different. Let's talk about the misfortunes of others as our motto.
First of all, Mr. A, he has been shrewd all his life and has never suffered losses, even his own brothers can't take advantage of him, but after the age of 60, both his family and the "career" he is for have become empty talk, which can be described as a bamboo basket for nothing.
Later, he passed away due to illness, in fact, his heart was depressed, and he became ill, thinking of his life, which made people sigh in vain.
Giving up the struggle will make people feel relaxed, and muddy nightmares are also a choice, but falling to the bottom like this will definitely not have any "bottoming**" will only sink into the sea of misery.
Many people are driven by the environment, unwilling but don't know what to do, or don't want to trouble at all, life and death, God can do whatever he wants.
After middle age, I especially understand the thoughts of these people: why live too tired, be simple-minded, have fewer desires, eat and drink every day, and enjoy ...... pleasureIsn't that bad?
I have an elder like this, he has worked hard all his life, but he is in good health, he has never had any illness, and he laughs when others say that he has no heart or lungs.
However, I think this is not a kind of helplessness, life is already very hard, what else can be done? Knowing that it is not worth it, and still going with the flow, this is not a deep suffering.
My other elder pursues success in the secular sense, such as making money, becoming an official, becoming famous, etc., the first half of his life is to ask himself to become a "rich man", and the second half of his life is to "hope that his son will become a dragon and his daughter will become a phoenix".
Because his family conditions are really weak, he has not achieved what he wants for decades, and it can be said that he has been in a state of depression and even resentment.
The clearer the gap, the more unwilling he is, but in reality, he has to pretend not to care and maintain the so-called sophisticated human feelings, and the result is self-torture. Therefore, the body of this elder is not as healthy as the elder above.
I've tried to compare them to see who is more worthy, but I've never figured out which one is better.Anyway, whether it's going with the flow or suppressing my heart, I don't want to "pretend" to be mature and understand the world.
This is Zeng Guofan's couplet, which means that everything in the world is relative, misfortune and fortune depend on blessing and misfortune, good times and adversity are tempered, and there are joys and sorrows in life, and there is no absolute happiness and sorrow.
Therefore, if you want to settle down in the second half of your life (the first half of your life is usually too late), the key is to do a good job in psychological construction, not only to act positively, but also to look down on success or failure.
You must know that it is not the logic of suffering in the first half of life and enjoying happiness in the second half of life, but that life is not satisfactory in the world, and there are troubles every year, and we must treat it with a normal heart.
The world is unpredictable, its only constant is change, which does not change when people are old, so we say to settle down in the second half of life, in fact, we emphasize the integration of life into a certain thing, so that the spirit has sustenance, life feels full, and the rhythm of happiness and sorrow is maintained until the end.
And this can not only take care of yourself, but must create value for others, only this kind of cause is eternal and meaningful. There has never been an example of a person who can be detached from society and can transcend himself, and he must seek self-transcendence and sublimation of life in the common cause of mankind. Such a person is long live youth and never grow old in life.