You won't say that there are always two strategies for women to choose a partner, one is to face their true love, show their infatuated side, and seize every opportunity to make the other party fall in love with you. I don't want to miss it. Another thing is that when confronted with a provider, they make a more rational choice, and if they can't continue to pay their bills, they get rid of that person altogether.
These two strategies meet the emotional and material needs of women. In terms of emotion, women want to find a man who has feelings, is suitable for falling in love, and can give themselves spiritual pleasure, but in terms of material, women are not suitable for marriage and hope to find a man who can accompany them. She can last a long time. - It is a relationship with a limited time that can provide her with survival value. They choose a partner by weighing emotions and material things and make decisions that are best for them.
But today I want to talk about a real and brutal phenomenon. In modern society, women tend to weigh material things against honesty when choosing a partner. If you only show your materiality and sincerity and are unable to exhibit other qualities that attract her, then you will most likely be classified as her provider, someone who only meets her material needs. That's it. If you are no longer able to maintain your supportive values, she will not be happy with you and may even abandon you outright.
If you don't recognize your own worth and can't keep a clear head at all times, your pursuit of love will become a depleted residue and be thrown into the garbage dump. However, over time, while the idea of women getting married has been widely promoted and accepted, especially among younger generations, the actual concept and behavior of marriage is still influenced by traditional gender roles.
For example, the current post-95 and post-2000 generations grew up in a relatively open and modern social environment, but they were encouraged to pursue personal independence since childhood, such as economic independence and emotional independence, and were educated. Even in such groups, many women still tend to think that men are the breadwinners of the family and should be the "breadwinners" when considering marriage.
Of course, women are naturally attracted to men who are tall, attractive in appearance, and good at flirting. This phenomenon is believed to be the manifestation of human pursuit and desire for beauty at the physiological level, based on various factors such as biological factors, socio-cultural factors, psychological factors, emotions, chemical reactions, etc. This reflects the complexity of human partner choice, including a combination of biological drives, sociocultural influences, and individual psychological preferences.
Therefore, the ideal male image that adolescent women aspire to is often handsome, good-temperamental, cheerful, and clean boys, but when they actually graduate from school and enter society, in real life, they will face various pressures. When you face challenges, your mindset changes.
They will gradually realize that the so-called handsome appearance and sweet talk do not translate directly into real needs in life. In real life, financial stability and security become more important considerations. But these donors can directly improve their quality of life by simply providing them with their actual material needs. For women who lack sufficient financial means, a financially capable partner may bring stability and improvement to their lives, helping them to live a life that they would not be able to achieve on their own.
It also proves that while romance and emotional attraction are important, financial support and stability are even more important in the face of real-life stress. This shift in perspective reflects people's different perceptions and expectations of love, marriage, and partnership as they grow up.
That said, it can be more costly for women to choose a romantic partner, as the relationship may not provide the necessary financial security or stability in life. In other words, lovers can provide emotional satisfaction and attraction, but these non-material benefits are often used to address practical life needs, such as housing, food, and other basic living conditions, which often you can't. As a result, many women may feel that having a partner is a luxury they cannot afford.
In contrast, providers provide the necessities of life, such as financial security and material support, which are the basis for building a stable living environment. So, from a practical point of view, the provider is considered a necessity of life.
So, from a man's point of view, choosing to be a lover is a better choice. Because, as lovers, they can enjoy a lot of treatment that providers can't imagine. You can find a partner with a higher social status than yourself, avoid the financial pressure of buying a car and a house, and get her deep love.
We're looking at these providers. They were able to secure marriage through their own efforts, but they were always at risk of betrayal. Because there is a saying: "When a woman is full of warmth, she desires". Women live a comfortable life and are materially wealthy, but when they are young, they often have excessive desires and often seek spiritual satisfaction, such as pure love like first love. Male providers who attract women primarily by providing material support may be at risk of being abandoned in this situation because they may not be able to meet the emotional needs of women. You may be unknowingly raising someone else's child, which is a tragedy for the provider.
Since ancient times, a woman's pursuit of love has been to find a man who can provide herself with abundant material conditions, and then choose a man of superior quality. From a sociological point of view, this instinct can be negative, as it can lead to social injustice and conflict. As a result, various laws and moral codes have been developed to limit this behavior. However, from a biological point of view, this instinct is beneficial because it helps humans to survive and reproduce and prevents human extinction.
So how do you know if you're her boyfriend or a provider?
First, see if you can maintain your relationship with her even if you reduce your material input to her. If the date is mostly shopping, lacking spiritual communication, and she clearly gets material comfort through you, then you may just be a provider. Even if she seems cute, thoughtful, and always expresses her love for you, you may become a provider if she never expresses a desire to pay you. This will become even more **.
I'm not against men paying, but if a woman is with a man just because he pays, then the relationship is primarily based on material things. If a man's financial situation is problematic and he is unable to meet the woman's material needs, the woman's attitude towards him may change dramatically, such as becoming indifferent or impatient. This is because the relationship is based on material support rather than a genuine emotional connection.
For example, if you confide in your girlfriend about work stress or life troubles, and she acts cold, perfunctory, and does not show the sense of responsibility she deserves, then you are not the real person in the relationship, and this may be the case. Even if you are not rich, if a girl really likes you, she will do all kinds of things to convince herself and her family to stay with you because true love is priceless and you will find a reason. In this case, money becomes less important, and appearance, talent, and character are the most important.
In a relationship, if she doesn't appreciate you and always laughs at you in a sarcastic tone, you may be the provider. Men usually like to show off their accomplishments, but if women appreciate it, it's a sign of appreciation. However, if a girl is always laughing at you for your poor grades or comparing you to others, it could be a sign that she doesn't appreciate you. If a girl really likes you, she will accept all your shortcomings and always praise you. If you want to be a lover that your provider appreciates, you need to learn how to chat and communicate with high emotional intelligence.
And, if she really likes you, she will not only be nice to you but will also show kindness and respect to your family. She will do her best to hope that your family will accept her, acknowledge her, and make her a part of the family. She cares about your parents and siblings. You don't have to do chores or massages, but at least when shopping for your own family, you think of buying them gifts. If your parents are sick, she will be happy to do everything in her power to help care for them. If your brother is in trouble, she will be happy to help you in any way she can. If your parents have some minor shortcomings, such as being fussy or thrifty, she will understand. If the answer to all of these questions is yes, then you will be considered a lover, and if the answer is no, then you may be a provider.
You can also tell who you are in her mind by the attitude of her best friend towards you. If your girlfriend's best friend is cold and perfunctory to you, ignores you at parties, or always pays for you, then you are an ATM in the woman's mind, she doesn't have any material needs and may just be a supporter. A woman usually likes to share and express, and if she thinks you are important, she will often tell her best friend about your good qualities. Then her best friend will naturally have a better opinion of you and treat you with respect and courtesy. However, if she only sees you as a provider, her best friend may only judge you based on your wealth rather than truly respecting you.
Finally, if she constantly expresses her dissatisfaction with you and tries to change your habits and behaviors, it means that she does not accept your current situation and wants you to be what she wants you to be. It could mean that there was. Girls usually accept people they really like and value rather than trying to change them. If a girl constantly criticizes you and tries to change you, it is likely that in her eyes you are just a "provider" who provides material support.
For some women, finding true love is as difficult as finding luxury. Even though they may have experienced multiple failures, they still want to find the perfect match. However, if you don't find the ideal partner, you can choose to accept the "provider" just as you would accept low-priced branded products. Although these products look good, their quality still falls short of true luxury.
In other words, true love is not expressed in flowery words, but is proven through practical actions. If you want to know if a girl really likes you or if you are just her provider, you should not just listen to what she says, but carefully observe her behavior and attitude. Do you understand?