Author |Shuai Penglian.
Edit |Tan Shan Shan.
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Are you a plan-oriented J-person, or a P-person who is good at improvisation?
At the beginning of the year, with their excellent planning ability, the J people were enshrined as a template for a new generation of "explosion reform".
The topic of "P people exploding and changing J people" frequently appears on the hot search lists of major platforms. When the object of "explosion change" extends from room furnishings, makeup and outfits to personality types, the J attribute in MBTI is regarded as a "fashion item" and is highly sought after.
Buy an exclusive planner, use Pomodoro to strictly plan time, pay attention to various time management**, young people consciously and voluntarily wear the J person logo, the main thing is to make themselves look more efficient and decent. As a student party, the time planning from 8 o'clock to 22 o'clock is the magic weapon to get a high GPAAs a professional, a meticulous timeline plan is at least a preemptive momentum that makes people feel ...... reliable
Memes such as "give J people a little shock" and glamorous check-ins on social ** tacitly render the atmosphere of "(seemingly) J people are more likely to succeed", and the unplanned personality is at the lower end of the chain of contempt. Behind the "P people exploding and changing J people", in addition to reflecting the positive pursuit of efficiency by individuals, it is also a re-reflection and adjustment of young people's living conditions under the merit society.
@新浪新闻 One of the time management of P people who exploded and changed j people shared on Weibo**. (Figure @新浪新闻).
Pour in the first step of changing j
In the field of MBTI's personality classification, the last time it was widely discussed was the difference between E and I. Similar to the simple and crude binary classification of E people "social cow" and I person "social fear", "p" and "j" are regarded as labels that distinguish a person from unplanned in online social networking.
If "planned and organized" is the characteristic of J people, P people are more enthusiastic about the random adaptation of "bursting liver" all night before the advent of DDL, and "talk about it when the time comes" and "go with the flow" are P people's firm life creed.
Netizens incarnate as contemporary "Shennong", and collect a comparative atlas of various daily behaviors of J people and P people in the spirit of scientific research: J people's rooms are well organized, and P people's rooms are mainly in the style of war;When Person P lists the overview of the travel destination, Person P has sent the travel plan accurate to the minute to the WeChat group and waits for confirmation by his companionsThere is always a folder named "Miscellaneous" on the desktop of the P person, which can hold the entire universe, while the J person sorts the files meticulously in chronological order, giving you a little J person shock.
Figure Xiaohongshu @ Stealing Lychees).
Formulating a daily to do list is the most mentioned method in Xiaohongshu's "explosion reform" J person tutorial. In the topic of "P People Explosion Reform J People Plan", all kinds of typesetting eye-catching plogs and vlogs have become witnesses for supervising themselves. If you're worried that you won't be able to persevere, don't worry, remember to buy a weekly planner to avoid using the annual plan to hurt your confidence; Or decorate the pages with stickers and drawings to reduce the boredom and pain of moving forward with the plan. These intimate tips can often bring a trace of comfort to the "self-transformation" of the P people.
Even with the bonus of the "Explosive Change" strategy, "Changing J" is still a big gamble for P people. Overcoming the three-minute heat of the preparation stage and entering the stable stage of implementation and landing is what the people who are carrying out the challenge of "explosive reform" want the most, and it is also the most difficult.
Lin Ge, who is in her third year of college, started with the suffix "change J version" after her WeChat name.
With a heavy amount of schoolwork, her "explosive reform" started from getting up. The night before, she would put her phone with an alarm clock on the desk under the bed and force herself out of the bed. She probably calculated that she temporarily changed J "The probability of success is five to five". In fact, turning off the alarm clock, turning over and falling asleep is still her norm.
From high school to the present, even if he has bought more than 50 beautiful books in total, Lin Ge can write down plans on them only a handful of times. Anxious, she 99% doesn't like her P attribute, "It's a normal day, but once you start P, the day will be messed up." ”
Picture Xiaohongshu @ It hurts! ）
I don't want to be P, but it's hard to stick to the "explosion change", and Lin Ge's mentality is not an isolated case. Although the "explosive reform" action seems to be in full swing, clicking on the challenge post on the Internet, the check-in updates of various P-person bloggers often come to an abrupt end in about 5 days. The comment area has changed from the positive interaction with the check-in allies at the beginning to the lonely sentence of "Did the squat succeed" from fans. Many P people typed the clown's emoji in the last note, and they were even more convinced of the fact that "Okay, I'm really a P person".
"Explosion and change J people" has thus become an electronic carnival. How long the road to becoming an ideal person is, perhaps not many people know; But what is certain is that many of the P-people have not yet traveled, but they have already fallen at the beginning stage.
Find a kind of order in the continuous rotation.
Wanting to be a "planning freak" is not exclusive to this era.
In the constellation discourse system that prevailed in the 90s of the 20th century, ** is the representative of the well-organized planning talent. However, the Ennexagram is different from the "fateful" constellation, and the reproducible measurement scale gives young people a chance to change their lives by "jumping" independently. Compared with "three points of destiny", "seven points rely on hard work" is more in line with the spur requirements of modern society for individuals.
Closely related to "P people" is the key word "procrastination". Playing with the mobile phone until 2 o'clock in the evening, and then working in front of the DDL for 8 hours to 10 o'clock in the morning, this is the most painful experience of the P person in Lin Ge's memory.
The procrastination of perfectionist appeals made it difficult for her to meet her goals before the deadline. "Since I was a child, I was told by my teacher that we had to score 100 points; Or even if no one tells you, you feel like you're going to get 100 points in this environment," Lin Ge said. Although she defines this self-discipline as a "not very healthy" tendency, she can't stop.
The philosopher Han Byung-chul argues in "The Burnout Society" that we have now entered the era of merit.
High expectations-procrastination-disappointed expectations" has become a cycle, and anxiety cannot be converted into effective motivation. The 5,000-word document was delayed, which made Lin Ge "physically and mentally exhausted". So, she looks forward to getting her life back on track through "explosion and reform".
Like Lin Ge, "change j" has become a prescription for many young people to relieve procrastination anxiety. But this also means that the "J attribute" is beginning to detach itself from its original meaning and be deified into a collection of highly effective qualities.
As the last dimension of the Jungian Type 16 personality classification, in the official interpretation of the MBTI, J and P represent two lifestyles based on "judgment" and "perceiving", respectively. But in the real world, J's "planning" is extended—upward goal-oriented and downward execution.
Compared with "P people", "J people" are successful people who know what they want, can disassemble their goals, and implement them efficiently. In the fast-paced era, this means more possibilities for success, and it is also more in line with the needs of individual self-construction and society. As a result, "J" and "P" jumped out of the "lifestyle" level and began to be linked to "value creation".
At this time, "explosion and reform J people" not only means cultivating strong planning ability, but also an acquisition of identity labels.
Picture "What is dating, what is love").
As Durkheim and Mauss put it in their book Primitive Classification: "Human beings have a natural instinct for classification, and the purpose of classification is to give us a sense of order." ”
Under the high pursuit of performance in the merit society, the value of people is quantified one by one by fine indicators. "How I feel" fades into the discussion, and "how hard I (seem) try" is mentioned more often.
On the one hand, the increasing competition is stressful; On the other hand, if you follow the tutorial to become a person who can write and execute plans, you will be able to get a little spiritual comfort in the short term. Whether it's a little bit of accomplishment after completing a daily plan, or the self-affirmation that comes with being a "J person", many young people find a long-lost sense of order in this stable short-term feedback mechanism before the exhaustion of real over-self-exploitation sets in.
Life is not a task.
Behind the sense of ritual brought about by "making a plan", the meaning of "plan" itself has also begun to be questioned.
As a former "iron-blooded P person", Wang Zhen, who is currently leaving his job to prepare for the graduate school entrance examination, recalls the experience of cultivating J attributes by doing handbooks in college. In fact, she didn't understand why she wanted to make a neat handbook, but more to follow the crowd and "draw a scoop according to the gourd". "I feel that this kind of neatness is more like an art form, it doesn't mean much to me, and now that I think about it, it doesn't seem necessary. ”
The urgency of the work allowed her to finally complete the counterattack from "70%P" to "70%J". But escaping the anxiety of procrastination, the compulsion attached to the planning brought her a new discomfort. Wang Zhen felt that a monitor came out of his body, "staring at himself behind his back like a pair of eyes". Even if she has gone to bed, as long as the task is not completed, she will still "sit up in a dying illness" and sit at the table, so as to soothe her conscience.
Being a J person is not as comfortable as you think. For Wang Zhen, the J attribute measured by the scale is just a job skill, not his desired personality. Wang Zhen believes that she still has a passion for inspiration and randomness in her blood, and she tried to find a balance between inspiration and planning as a designer in the architecture industry.
Picture: "Hortencia").
The road of "explosion and reform of J people", not every P person passively "collapses in the middle way" just because they can't persevere.
Xiaowen decided not to force himself to be a J person anymore. As a countercurrent in the tide of P to J, she used to envy her efficient J friends, but now she decided to let herself "loose".
She still vividly remembers the moment when she had the idea of a change, sparked by a friend's experience. This friend of J, who suffers from anxiety, accidentally missed the time when he went to the hospital to pick up psychotropic drugs. At that time, my friend's first feeling was self-blame: "Why didn't you even do this well?" And this voice from the heart, my friend said, was like what her parents repeatedly asked her when she was a child. The experience of a friend made Xiaowen feel distressed.
In those days, Xiaowen's mother sent her a ** for taking her sister to the street to eat ice cream to satisfy her hunger. She suddenly discovered that she grew up in an atmosphere of "focusing on feelings": she often ran around the fields, chased butterflies whenever she wanted, and caught insects whenever she wanted to. This unfettered freedom allowed her to grow up attentive to her own needs and desires.
From this point of view, it seems unnecessary to pursue the utilitarian nature of everything. Even in a highly efficient modern society, life is not the same as completing a task. Task-based goals can be dismantled and subdivided to improve the efficiency of completion, but the multi-faceted meaning of life is difficult to list one by one with a regular serial number.
The first thing Xiaowen did was to no longer deliberately pursue the cleanliness of the desktop. She deliberately made an "annotation map" of the messy desktop of her office desk. "Chaos in every place has a reason and significance," Xiaowen said. She no longer shy away from the matter of "chaos", because there is order in it.
(Photo provided by the interviewee).
At this time, Lin Ge was still on the road of "explosive reform". Despite her dedication to efficiency, she retains that 1% of her love for randomness. She enjoys the fact that everyone is late when she travels with friends, which gives her a sense of relaxation when she finds her kind. This moment made her feel that man should not be just a screw in the world, but a fallen leaf, a weed, or anything else.
I'm probably going to be on the way to 'P people explode to J people' for the next 10 years. It's not that J people are better than P people, but I want to find my own more stable kernel in the world. Lin Ge said.
Perhaps, for the complexity of life itself, it is necessary to pay attention to feelings and pay attention to planning. Sometimes, what we need is not a "blast" dismantling, but an inward self-consistency.