As the bells ring across the country, parents' moods are on a roller coaster. A ** has attracted widespread attention, a father was sad and wept because his child only scored 38 points in final mathematics, and his affectionate words touched the heartstrings of countless parents.
I once dreamed that my child could become a pillar of the country, but gradually lowered my expectations to be admitted to university and grow up healthily. ”
Now I just want not to go astray. ”
The words reveal a deep helplessness about family education and expectations.
In the face of this heartbroken father, parents in the comment area have shared their children's exam experiences to show sympathy and comfort.
A Henan parent said that his son scored 18 points in math to balance his emotions, while another Henan parent reported that his two children achieved 0 and 8 points respectively. The parents of the post-90s generation in Shandong revealed that their son's score did not exceed his age, and the Guangxi mother calmly said that her daughter only scored 15 points in the first year of junior high school, and she did not cry because of this.
[Reverse the reversal, **tutoring].
Many parents also shared the experience of tutoring but with little effect, such as Henan netizens spent more than 10,000 yuan one-on-one tutoring for their sons in the third year of high school, and their math scores only increased by 1 point; Parents in Inner Mongolia spent 15,000 yuan to make up classes, but as a result, their physical and chemical scores declined; Shaanxi parents pay a one-to-one fee of 480 yuan per hour, but their children's test scores stop at 59 points; The children of Gansu parents have made up for their math from 50 to 19 points, which makes people sigh that they should put down their high expectations.
[Question: The sea is difficult to cross].
Many netizens think that the current test questions are more difficult, and even some questions are tricky even for adults. They recalled the simple addition, subtraction, multiplication and division they learned in elementary school, and compared it to the topics that require deep thinking today, they were filled with emotion. This has sparked a discussion about whether the current education methods and assessment standards are too strict.
[Reason analysis: Why do parents attach so much importance to their children's academic performance? 】
In the current social environment, parents' high concern about their children's academic performance stems from the interweaving of multiple factors. First, the phenomenon of "academic credentials" makes grades seen as a "stepping stone" to high-quality educational resources and good career prospects in the future.
Secondly, the traditional concept of success has led many parents to believe that excellent academic performance is an important indicator of whether a child is a talent.
In addition, the competitive nature of home education also exacerbates parents' anxiety about their children's scores, and they worry that their children who lag behind other families will be at a disadvantage in the fierce social competition.
[The way to break the game: how to change the situation of attaching too much importance to results?]】
1.Changing the concept of education
In the process of educating children, parents should deeply understand that compared with a single performance, the comprehensive and balanced development of children is the core. Particular attention should be paid to cultivating intangible but vital qualities such as innovation, teamwork skills and a sense of social responsibility, which are the cornerstones of children's future and sustainable development in the society of the future.
2.A new model of home-school co-education
Parents play an indispensable role in the blueprint of school education, so schools should work with parents to guide parents to build a scientific and progressive concept of education through regular family education seminars and parent-child interaction projects. In this process, it is particularly important to inspire parents to understand and actively embrace the diversified evaluation mechanism, so as to form a comprehensive and inclusive educational environment for their children's growth.
3.Reform the evaluation mechanism
In the process of education reform, the competent departments of education should steadily promote the transition from an evaluation system that simply focuses on test scores to the in-depth implementation of quality education. Encourage the adoption of a variety of comprehensive evaluation strategies, in order to truly and accurately capture and reflect the comprehensive quality of students.
4.Strengthen mental health education
In the process of focusing on children's academic progress, we must not neglect the development of children's mental health. It is very important for us to guide children to establish a positive learning concept, and at the same time temper their ability to resist stress and deal with problems properly, so as to help them move forward steadily on the road of comprehensive and healthy development, and achieve a real leap in growth.
[The author has something to say].
The common experience of parents reveals the pressure and confusion that prevail under the current education system in China. Family anxiety caused by excessive focus on scores not only affects children's mental health, but also causes a huge psychological burden on parents. We urgently need to re-examine the purpose and evaluation mechanism of education, and find a more comprehensive, scientific and humanized education path.
Whether it's worry or humor, parents are coping with the pressures of education in their own ways. We should understand and accept that every child is different, after all, grades are not the only measure of success. The essence of education should be to guide children to discover themselves, develop interests and abilities, rather than blindly pursue scores.
Topic**: In today's era, how to help children effectively cope with learning pressure through entertaining and education, and at the same time let parents find a new way of happy education?