As the saying goes, there is no filial son in front of the bed of a long illness, and the heart reveals the truth of human nature
Why"There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time"？This proverb speaks the truth about human nature!
There are some proverbs that are often passed down throughout life, and these proverbs are also precious treasures left to us by our ancestors. These proverbs include natural climate, humanistic care, knowing and employing people, handling experience, and so on. However, there are some proverbs that give people a feeling of disgust and helplessness, such as:"There is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time", which may sound disgusting, is in fact true.
Seeing this sentence, many people can't help but ask: Didn't it say that the ancients ruled the world with filial piety? The so-called filial piety does not include taking care of elderly parents! Even if your parents are sick, you should take responsibility for them, not abandon them, let alone dislike them. After all, everyone has to go through the process of birth, aging, sickness, and death, which is also a natural law that no one can escape.
As we age, our physical condition deteriorates. When the body is unable to support itself and is knocked down by an illness, it becomes bedridden and unable to take care of itself. When this happens to the elderly, it's time for the children to step in. After all, they may have been born and raised by their parents, and they are also relatives who are related to themselves in this world, and we should take care of them. But why is it said that there is no filial son in front of the bed for a long time?
In fact, this is not groundless, but human nature. If the children are more filial, they will be particularly concerned about the mental state of their parents, and when their parents are sick, they will also take care of their parents at the bedside. However, this condition is limited to cases where the parents are occasionally sick. If parents are bedridden for a long time, it can put pressure on their children's daily lives.
This is because they already have their own small family, so they need to allocate their energy to their own small family. However, you have to realize that one's energy is limited, and in addition to going to work to take care of one's parents, one has to take care of one's own small family. For the average person, it is impossible to cover everything, which is bound to lead to one or more families being neglected.
If small families are neglected because of the long-term care of their parents, it can cause resentment between women and children. At that time, parents become the first burden of the small family. Even if the child doesn't say it verbally, he wants his parents to leave him sooner. This is the difference between a father and a son: fathers always care about their children, they don't want to be a burden to them, but sons are not.
They don't like their elderly parents in bed, and they don't like their daily excrement. If the parents are healthy and valuable, they can also take care of them from time to time, but if the parents no longer have any value and are lying in bed waiting for them to take care of them, that's a different story. An old man once said a painful but true word.
He said:"If you have millions of dollars in savings, your children want you to die early so they can share your property. But if you have a pension of a few thousand dollars, they will hold you in the palm of their hand. "Through this observation, we can also see that there is indeed a premise for children's love for the elderly, and their premise is that the elderly are valuable.