** Wang Junjing, a border soldier, lost his arms in a dangerous mission, and in order not to become a burden to his girlfriend Wu Xinfen, he took the initiative to choose to cut off the connection between the two.
However, after Wu Xinfen learned what had happened, she insisted on staying by his side to take care of him, and despite her family's opposition, she still insisted on marrying him.
Now it has been 22 years, and they got married. How has the couple's life changed during the ups and downs?
The love adventures of a young girl.
In 2002, the ** Military Region held an unusual wedding, the bride was a college student, and the groom was a soldier who had lost both arms and had nearly lost his life on several occasions while on the border.
The wedding scene of the newlyweds was full of laughter and laughter, and everyone sent sincere blessings. However, only the newcomers themselves know how much wind and rain they have gone through in order to usher in this day.
From 1993 to 2002, when they finally entered the palace of marriage, the couple has spent nearly 10 years together.
In the past 10 years, they have not spent a lot of time together, and more often it is Wu Xinfen who accompanies and takes care of Wang Junjing in the hospital.
Wu Xinfen, a college student at the beginning of the 21st century, is seen by everyone as a person with a bright future, and can also choose a better and happier marriage.
However, Wu Xinfen identified Wang Junjing as early as 1997 as her future husband, when she saw Wang Junjing in the hospital bed gritting his teeth and surviving the critical illness again and again.
In 1997, after graduating from university, Wu Xinfen and Wang Junjing lost contact for a long time. Considering the particularity of Wang Junjing's work, Wu Xinfen just felt that Wang Junjing might be on a special task and it was inconvenient to contact him.
However, despite the fact that the letters that kept being sent to ** were lost like a stone in the sea, this still filled Wu Xinfen's heart with worry and sadness.
She had doubted that Wang Junjing would be tempted by others, thinking that he might find a better choice. However, despite this, Wu Xinfen still chose to believe Wang Junjing and waited for it.
She never expected that when she learned the news of Wang Junjing again, she would see him lying on the hospital bed. It was only then that she learned that in a previous rescue mission, Wang Junjing had already lost both arms.
He was still in danger of his life at that time, in order not to delay Wu Xinfen's future, and wanted to reduce the harm to her in this way, he chose to hide his situation, no longer contacted Wu Xinfen, and was determined not to drag her down.
However, Wu Xinfen's persistence was far beyond his imagination. When Wang Junjing saw Wu Xinfen in front of the hospital bed, he felt touched in his heart, but more embarrassed.
He hopes to be a hero in Wu Xinfen's mind, showing a manly spirit that stands up to the sky, rather than lying on the bed as a patient who has lost his arms.
Therefore, he did not accept Wu Xinfen's love and tried to get her to leave him and pursue a more hopeful and happier future.
Wu Xinfen, who was only 20 years old, resolutely refused, she believed that love should not be mixed with any impurities, especially in Wang Junjing's most difficult moment, she was even more reluctant to give up this man.
Wu Xinfen took the initiative to take on the responsibility of care, although Wang Junjing was a little embarrassed, but he thought in his heart that it was not easy to take care of the patient, maybe as time passed, Wu Xinfen would feel difficult and give up.
At that time, Wang Junjing was completely unable to take care of himself, all his affairs needed to be handled by his family, and he didn't even believe that Wu Xinfen would persevere.
Wu Xinfen experienced the passage of a year or two in the initial stage of taking care of Wang Junjing. Although she felt shy and embarrassed, she never chose to give up.
The two of them gradually moved from initial embarrassment to tacit understanding, and Wang Junjing finally realized Wu Xinfen's perseverance and deep love for himself.
Wu Xinfen told Wang Junjing that if she marries him, she may not be happy, but if she can't marry him, she will definitely not be happy.
Wang Junjing was moved by Wu Xinfen's dedication, and no longer treated them indifferently, began to take their relationship seriously, and worked hard to win Wu Xinfen's family to support their love, and finally blessed their marriage.
After four years of hard work, Wu Xinfen succeeded in changing the initial strong opposition attitude of her family, and they gradually changed to a tacit attitude. In the end, the two were able to hold a wedding and start an ordinary and happy family life.
After Wu Xinfen got married, she still took care of Wang Junjing personally and encouraged him to do what he could.
Under Wu Xinfen's care and encouragement, Wang Junjing did not get depressed, but began to actively carry out various ** training, and even learned to use his mouth to complete trivial tasks such as writing and sending messages in daily life.
Wu Xinfen said that although both arms have been lost, it is important that people cannot lose their faith in hope.
Wu Xinfen is as passionate and tenacious as the sun, and her existence allows Wang Junjing to rely on her light and live like an ordinary person, freeing herself from the shadow of inferiority and self-abandonment.
With the support of the army, Wang Junjing was eventually given a prosthetic leg. Although he still has mobility problems in many ways, his future has become brighter, and the lives of the two have become happier.
In an interview with CCTV, the host asked Wu Xinfen if she had any regrets and if she could make the same choice if she could do it all over again.
Wu Xinfen said categorically that even if there is an afterlife, she will not hesitate to choose to become a military wife, she looked at her husband beside her.
Love is thousands of miles away
The two knew each other by letter after letter, although they were separated by thousands of mountains and rivers, one was a Henan girl, and the other was a border soldier.
Wu Xinfen has had a special affection for soldiers since he was a child. In those days when information was underdeveloped, television and radio** were mostly uplifting and positive news, with occasional news about border guards and other military personnel.
Wu Xinfen only needed one time to fall in love with the identity of the People's Liberation Army, she began to collect news and stories about soldiers, and for the first time had a longing for her future husband and love.
It wasn't until Wu Xinfen went to middle school that she gradually learned more about the military and had a certain understanding of the places where the army was often stationed.
She understands that she is too young to make a substantial contribution to these soldiers, but she is eager to bring more comfort and spiritual support to these soldiers who defend their country with her words.
She began to write letters to border guards, and over the years, she had accumulated thousands of letters. Regrettably, however, these letters were never answered. Although Wu Xinfen was depressed, she still did not give up.
Until New Year's Day in 1993, Wu Xinfen once again sent New Year wishes to the soldiers, but this time, her letter was delivered to Wang Junjing by mistake.
Since Wang Junjing was the only one in the entire garrison unit from Henan, when the company received a letter from this province, the correspondent mistakenly handed it to Wang Junjing, mistakenly believing that it was a letter from his family.
Wang Junjing looked confused, he didn't believe that his parents with a low level of education would send him a letter home. It wasn't until he opened the envelope that he realized that it was actually a letter of condolence written by a schoolgirl to all officers and soldiers.
Perhaps because he missed his hometown too much, or because he was moved by the sincerity of the female student, Wang Junjing replied to the girl's letter. The letter built a bridge of communication between the young couple.
Wu Xinfen finally received a reply from the army, which made her ecstatic, and her persistence over the years was finally answered.
In this way, two young people separated by mountains and rivers have established a bond because of one letter after another.
Wang Junjing gained more strength from one letter after another, and he began to become dissatisfied with the status quo, not only trying to find opportunities to join the party, but also making himself a "spearhead" in the army.
Even because he was unwilling to live up to Wu Xinfen's expectations for soldiers, he finally decided to go to ** to garrison the border.
He hopes that he can conform to the image of an ideal soldier in Wu Xinfen's mind and become a patriotic soldier who charges forward at that moment to defend his family and country.
Wu Xinfen graduated from university in 1996, while Wang Junjing was preparing to go to ** to carry out the mission. Before he left, the two men, who had been communicating by letter for a long time, finally met briefly.
This encounter marks the beginning of love, and they confirm their relationship with each other, but are still confused about the future.
Wang Junjing chose to hide his injury not because he didn't trust Wu Xinfen, but because he felt that he couldn't let such a beautiful girl delay him.
At that time, he could not have more illusions about the love between the two. A person who has lost both arms and can't even hug his lover, how can he create a haven for a girl from the wind and rain?
He believes that Wu Xinfen prefers a hero rather than a wasted person.
In order not to hurt the girl more, he chooses to stop replying to her letters and begins to deal with their relationship with indifference.
He mistakenly thought that the girl would give up because of the distance between the two. He only hoped that he would be able to think of himself when the girl tossed and turned at night.
He would rather be the only regret of the girl's youth than be a drag on her life.
He survived once again in a hospital bed, and when he saw the girl appear, he felt helpless and panicked, but could only indifferently let the girl go.
He underestimated the girl's insistence on love, and also underestimated the indomitable quality of the girl. The girl takes care of him herself, despite his indifference, and unabashedly devotes herself to it, just to truly become his love.
Wu Xinfen said, you have used your hands to protect the country and support the country's peace and security, so now let me be your hands and support you tomorrow.
Wu Xinfen is not just a person who likes soldiers verbally, she deeply understands the hardships experienced by soldiers, and is even willing to bear the hardships endured by heroes.
Therefore, the two of them were able to resist all rumors and criticism, withstand the pressure of their families, and finally came together. Many people think that Wu Xinfen is a model of a military wife, but she herself feels that she has just done what every ordinary woman should do.