Communicating with your child is one of the essential skills for parenting, and if you don't have that skill as a parent, it can be a disaster for your child.
If you don't know how to communicate, all expectations are wishful thinking.
If you don't know how to communicate, your parents' love for their children will turn into harm.
1. Be empathetic before you can be reasonable
The child was so sad that his mother threw his beloved teddy bear that he cried incessantly.
But my mother said impatiently, "Don't cry, it's just an old toy, let's buy a new one." The child cried even more.
At this time, the child cries not only because the teddy bear is lost, but also because his emotions are not accepted and understood.
Parents do not have the right to define or demand what children feel, it is the child's own feelings, which need to be respected by parents.
At this time, if parents can try to accept their children's emotions first, and then ask their children: "Does the baby feel sad that he has lost a good friend?" ”
Only when children's emotions are accepted and understood can they accept rational communication.
2. Control your emotions and give your children a sense of security
When communicating with children, parents want their children to be able to express their problems clearly and semanticly. This requires parents to have a stable mood before communicating with their children, and tell their children that no matter what happens, they can speak up boldly, and their parents will face it with him and love him forever. In this way, children can gain a sense of security in communication, which can be conducive to communication.
3. Give affirmation and encouragement to make children feel accepted
When the child is willing to take the initiative to describe the problem, it means that the process of solving the problem has begun, and at this time, parents can tell the child: "We can explore solutions with you, and we still love you no matter how well you do or how you behave." "Using words like this to make children feel encouraged and accepted is very good for problem solving.
So what are the effects of good communication on children?
1. Enhance the relationship between parents and children.
2. It helps children release pressure, adjust their mentality, and calm their emotions.
3. It is more helpful for parents to understand their children's real emotions and thoughts.
Educating children is like raising flowers, careful watering, fertilization, and care can be successful, but in fact, not everyone can raise flowers well, and if you don't understand, you have to ask others for advice and learn the experience and art of raising flowers.
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