Parenting is a lifelong undertaking for parents and a challenging journey. In the process of parenting, parents will encounter a variety of problems, the most troublesome of which is the education of their children. Some children are well-behaved and sensible, which makes parents worry-free, while some children are headaches and are even called "debt collectors".
From a psychological point of view, these 4 types of children are likely to come to "collect debts", and the more spoiled, the worse it is.
1.Selfish and headstrong children
Habitual children are like killing children", doting will only make children become selfish and willful.
Children who are selfish and willful tend to be self-centered and lack empathy and responsibility. They don't know how to respect others, and they don't know how to appreciate their parents' contributions.
At home, he is arrogant and demands that his parents meet all unreasonable demands.
He doesn't know how to be polite outside, and often gets into arguments with others.
I don't know how to be grateful, and I turn a blind eye to my parents' contributions.
Children who are selfish and willful will have a hard time adapting to society when they grow up, are prone to conflict with others, and have difficulty achieving success.
Parents should cultivate their children's sense of responsibility and empathy from an early age, establish correct values, and guide their children to learn to respect others and be grateful to their parents.
Resolutely refuse unreasonable requests from children, do not spoil them, and let children understand that there is no unconditional love and giving.
2.Lack of assertiveness
The love of parents for their children is far-reaching. "Overprotection can make children less assertive and independent.
Children who lack assertiveness depend on their parents for everything and have no ideas and opinions of their own. When they encounter difficulties, they will only seek help from their parents and lack the ability to solve problems independently.
Rely on parents in learning, do not take the initiative to learn, and withdraw when encountering problems.
Unable to take care of himself in life, he can reach out for food and open his mouth, and lack the ability to take care of himself.
Unassertive at work, hesitant to deal with things, and lack the ability to think independently.
Children who lack assertiveness will find it difficult to adapt to society when they grow up, are easily manipulated by others, and find it difficult to achieve success in their careers.
Parents should cultivate their children's sense of independence from an early age, encourage their children to make their own decisions, and learn to solve problems independently.
Give your child enough space and freedom, don't do anything to replace it, and let your child exercise his abilities in practice.
3.Children who are greedy for pleasure
It is easy to go from thrift to luxury, and it is difficult to go from luxury to thrift. "Satisfying a child's material needs too early can lead to a habit of lusting for pleasure.
Children who are greedy for pleasure only focus on immediate pleasures and lack a long-term vision. They are easily addicted to online games, electronic products, etc., and do not want to make progress, wasting time and energy.
Addicted to online games, regardless of study and life.
He likes to compare, and pursues famous brands and luxury goods.
There is no moderation, spending money lavishly, and not knowing how to cherish wealth.
Children who are greedy for pleasure will find it difficult to become talents when they grow up, and it is easy to go astray, and it is difficult to achieve a happy life.
Parents should cultivate their children's sense of thrift and delayed gratification from an early age, and guide their children to establish correct values.
Don't meet your child's material needs too early, let your child learn to value time and money, and know how to get what he wants through hard work.
4.Children who lie about sex
Honesty is the foundation of life. "Children who lie lack integrity and find it difficult to gain the trust of others.
Children who are prone to lying lack integrity and often lie to deceive others. In order to escape punishment or satisfy their own selfish desires, they will not hesitate to make up lies, which will seriously affect their interpersonal relationships and social image.
Lie often, even if it's a small thing.
In order to escape punishment, they made up lies to deceive their parents and teachers.
Lying to others in order to satisfy their own selfish desires.
Children who are prone to lying will find it difficult to gain the trust of others and gain a foothold in society when they grow up.
Parents should cultivate their children's sense of integrity from an early age, set an example by example, and set an example of honesty.
When a child lies, point it out and correct it in time to help him realize the dangers of lying.
Conclusion:
The above four types of children are often here to "collect debts", and the more spoiled, the worse it is. Parents should have a correct understanding of these problems and adopt reasonable education methods to help their children grow up healthily.
Finally, it is important to note that every child is a unique individual with their own strengths and weaknesses. Parents should adopt appropriate education methods according to the characteristics of their children to help them develop their strengths and avoid weaknesses and become an excellent person.
February** Dynamic Incentive Program