In marriage, we often hear that people choose to divorce because they are unhappy in their marriage, but we believe that they have made the wrong choice in the person they are marrying. If I find the right person, my marriage will be happy, and I don't want that to happen. Marriage makes you happy when you find a new partner, but marriage is not something that can be changed at will and requires the efforts and understanding of both parties to maintain.
First, you need to realize that your marriage needs to be managed. No matter who you are with, you should strive to maintain and strengthen your relationship. If something goes wrong in your marriage, the first thing you need to do is fix it instead of giving up easily.
Zhang and Liu have been married for more than five years. Due to life reasons, the two had no choice but to separate. At first, their relationship was inseparable. Since then, the two have become closer and rarely see each other. "Both Mr. Tan and Ms. Zhang are concentrating on their work, while Ms. Liu is always focused on taking care of the children and doing housework, this kind of life makes her very depressed, this is not the life she wants, no, she needs care and care. ”
Mr. Zhang did not understand Mr. Liu's distress. I feel like something is going on at home. They increasingly don't care about each other. They seem to be living their own lives, having communication, from a couple who talked about everything at the beginning, to a couple who never talks now.
Mr. Liu was very disappointed in this marriage. She didn't want that life. Looking at the couples around me, I felt like I was married to the wrong person. Once you meet the person you love, your marriage with that person is over. Fortunately, she thought about divorce many times. In the end, during the quarrel, Ms. Liu couldn't bear it anymore and felt that it didn't matter, so she filed for divorce. She is convinced that 'her marriage' is right. "Marriage is a mistake. ”
After the divorce, Liu believes that she will find someone better. Later, I met Mr. Zhao. The two are attracted to each other and soon fall in love. Mr. Liu felt that he had met the most suitable person for him. She decided to marry Mr. Zhao. When they were just over a year old, they were inseparable and cared for each other, but as the marriage grew longer, the same problems began to arise in their marriage. Liu began to question his choice and regretted remarrying.
That's what life looks like. In married life, it is inevitable that there will be disputes over some things, and there will be many conflicts. In marriage, no matter who you are with, there will inevitably be conflicts. We must try to find out the problems in the marriage and on both sides, not to avoid the problems, but to communicate and solve them.
There is no right or wrong answer to marriage, but you will have the same problem whether you marry someone you love or someone you don't love. Married life is a gradual process, especially in the first 10 years of marriage. When you first start married life, it's not what you expect. You and your partner choose to divorce because you want to find the life you want.
No matter who you're with in your marriage, relationships need to be grinded. After a period of running-in, the problem that you thought was unsolvable will no longer be a problem.
Marriage problems cannot be solved by substitution. Even if you change people, the same conflict still exists, and you will have the same problem. If you can't resolve these issues in your last marriage, you'll be caught off guard in your next marriage. "Have you been divorced? So divorce is not the best option, you have to work hard to solve the problem, there is no problem that cannot be solved, it is just whether you want to solve it or not. "Yes. ”
In marriage, it is inevitable that there will be many contradictions, quarrels, and cold wars. After being married for a long time, it is inevitable that they will start to dislike each other and lose their feelings for each other. Marriage does not mean marriage. If there is no relationship, they will choose to break up, but in this marriage, two people sit down and communicate well and solve problems through communication.
People who have been married for more than 10 years say, "Even if you change partners, you won't be happy." If you change partners, you will experience all kinds of conflicts again. "I've been through this," he said. After 10 years of running-in, the two no longer quarrel over trivial matters. These problems will no longer be a problem, and the relationship will get better and better. Everyone's marriage is the same. Even if they encounter problems, they will slowly get along and grind into small pieces.