That day, when my girlfriend told me about her breakup late at night, she asked me seriously: "He always said that he didn't feel that I liked him, but I really liked him. I often express my love for him through words and deeds, but why can't he feel it? You say, is it true that I can't fall in love? After reassuring her, I fell into thinking, how can the matter of falling in love have anything to do with "will it"? This is a bit like when we take the exam, we do the wrong question, the score is poor, we always subconsciously say, "I can do this question, but this time I was too careless." ”
But I am always unwilling to seriously analyze the paper once and correct a wrong question, resulting in the wrong question and the wrong next time I encounter it. Projected into love, when the relationship encounters problems, we will always choose to end the relationship hastily, but we have never thought that there are many problems in the relationship that cannot be run-in, and they can be solved by the right medicine. After the end of the relationship, we will not reflect on right and wrong, but will only blame ourselves for being too clumsy in handling love, and even suspect that we may not be suitable for love. So in the days that followed, I didn't know how to start a relationship, so I preferred to choose to avoid the possibility of everything starting.
But the truth is, it's not that we won't fall in love, it's that we've been running away from it. Escape from questions, avoid communication, avoid expression, and even avoid beginnings. Just like when a friend spits bitterness on me, she has already inadvertently said what the problem is: he doesn't feel her liking. He walked with her in the playground and said hello to the female classmate he met him, and she instantly sank her face and ran back to the dormitory without saying a word. No matter how much he chased, she wouldn't look back. No matter how he sends a message, he ignores it. When I returned to the dormitory, I was crying silently. We asked her, "You're so sad, why don't you tell him why you're angry?" But she said, "How stingy I am to say this!" And I didn't want to quarrel with him.
On her birthday, he took great pains to prepare gifts, obviously very satisfied and happy in his heart, but he always had to pick a thorn in his mouth. Seeing that her boyfriend was waiting for praise with joy, but after seeing her reaction, he lowered his head in disappointment, like a child who had done something wrong, and we also felt a little unbearable. But she said, "Praise him, and he will not be proud?" When there is a contradiction, she always chooses the Cold War. When there is no contradiction, she also never expresses her liking. They never quarreled, but they never solved the problem.