It's the college entrance examination season again, and now my baby granddaughter is already a college student, I remember last year to learn that my granddaughter was admitted to a key university, I was so excited that I couldn't sleep, and the next day I proudly sent out the good news in the group of colleagues and friends.
I thought that my granddaughter was so angry, and I couldn't just forget it as a grandmother, so I took out 50,000 yuan from my savings, and then sent it to my granddaughter, and came to my son's house, and my daughter-in-law beckoned me to sit down, and when I explained my intention and put the big red envelope of 50,000 yuan on the coffee table, my daughter-in-law refused expressionlessly.
The daughter-in-law said kind words in her mouth, saying that her granddaughter's tuition fees had already been prepared by their husband and wife, and said that the money let me keep it for the elderly, I was not very happy to hear it, I am a grandmother, and my granddaughter is going to college, I will express my heart and what's wrong, I pulled my face and took the money and stuffed it into my granddaughter's hand, and my granddaughter was stunned for a moment, not to pick it up, not to pick it up, and then my son came over to me.
I took the money from my granddaughter's hand and stuffed it back into my hand, and he said to me, "Mom, you can stop it." My family has just had a good life.
My son's words made me feel sad, but I didn't expect them to think of me so much, and it was still unpleasant that happened before, which made my daughter-in-law feel estranged from me.
My wife and I have two sons, the eldest is calm and the second is smart.
I originally had my own plans for the boss, that is, the daughter of a colleague of mine, I also watched her grow up, I really wanted her to be with my eldest son, but I didn't expect my eldest son to talk about his girlfriend outside.
I am very dissatisfied with this, looking at my son's own choice of daughter-in-law I am more and more dissatisfied, not only the dwarf is also dark, the personality is sullen and does not like to talk, the more I look at it, the more angry I become, the eldest daughter-in-law came to the door for the first time, I did not give her a good face, I went back to the room and lay on the bed in a fit of anger.
That day, my wife was cooking, he called me out to eat, I reluctantly got up, I was not willing to look at my daughter-in-law from beginning to end at the dinner table, I wanted to make her retreat, who knew that her relationship with her son was very firm, and the two had to be together.
I didn't have anything good to say about marriage, I said that my family had no money, neither the bride price nor the money to buy a house, and then the eldest son got married and lived with us.
After marriage, the eldest daughter-in-law was very pleasing to me, and I rushed to do housework, and later I asked her to tidy up the room for the younger son, wash the sheets and dry the quilt, she also did the same, the eldest daughter-in-law is not many people and is honest, sometimes she does things slowly, I don't have a good face to her, and my wife sometimes can't stand it and protects her daughter-in-law, which makes me feel even more uncomfortable.
My eldest daughter-in-law later became pregnant, and I took good care of her during that time, and I was full of expectations to hold my grandson, but she gave birth to a granddaughter.
Looking at the swarthy granddaughter, like a little old man, I don't like it from the bottom of my heart, I took care of it in the hospital for a day and then went home under the pretext of being unwell, and the later days were my mother and eldest son in the hospital to take care of, and occasionally I went to deliver food.
The granddaughter looks very much like the eldest daughter-in-law, and her personality is not cheerful, and she is not very close to me, the more she is not close to me, the more I dislike her, since the eldest son moved out, their family rarely comes back, every time the granddaughter timidly hides behind the eldest daughter-in-law, watching her not on the stage, I am very angry, I say that it is black and not slippery, it is really unpleasant.
In the third year of my youngest son's marriage, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a big fat boy, the child looks like his father, white and chubby is very similar to my youngest son, I love this grandson to the bones, no matter what he wants, I will be satisfied.
Later, my granddaughter and grandson were playing together, I quietly observed, the eldest granddaughter ** black, stubborn, not sweet, unlike my grandson and my kiss, white and cute, and extroverted, I don't like this granddaughter more and more, in front of relatives I sometimes tell the truth, this granddaughter I really don't like, black and unpleasant and no strengths, with her mother.
These words more or less reached the ears of the eldest daughter-in-law, she didn't say it, but the son came back and said it a few times, I think it was the eldest daughter-in-law who was stirring up right and wrong, provoking the relationship between our mother and son, and I didn't like this daughter-in-law even more.
One weekend when the children came back, the granddaughter and the grandson were playing together, I don't know how, the grandson suddenly cried, and hugged my thigh to complain, saying that my sister had a toy that she didn't play with, I took the grandson's hand and went to find the granddaughter, who knew that the granddaughter refused to admit the mistake, I was so angry that I slapped it, and immediately 5 finger prints came out.
The granddaughter's cry attracted the eldest daughter-in-law, and the eldest daughter-in-law held her granddaughter to reason with me, and I said angrily, grandma beat her granddaughter, it is only right, I can beat her father, why can't I beat her?
The eldest daughter-in-law completely quarreled with me that day, and the eldest son persuaded both sides, but I couldn't listen to it at all, and the eldest daughter-in-law left with her granddaughter.
Over the years, the eldest daughter-in-law has always been very suspicious of me because of my granddaughter's beating of my granddaughter, at first she resolutely refused to come to us, every time the son came alone, and gradually with the passage of time, occasionally the eldest daughter-in-law would come back, but she was no longer as busy in the kitchen as before, but like a guest, she came to eat, ate and left.
Sometimes I look at it coldly, and I regret that I shouldn't have done it at the beginning, and then take a closer look at the two children, although the eldest granddaughter is not likable, but she reads very well, she is very hard-working, every year is a good student, every time my son comes back to share with us, we all feel that there is face on our faces, go out and talk to others, people give us a thumbs up.
Compared with the granddaughter, the grandson's grades are very average, and he can't read and is very naughty, plus the younger son and daughter-in-law are used to it every day, and his temper is getting bigger and bigger, and he can't quarrel with us at every turn, and a while ago he was pestering me to buy him a mobile phone and play games behind his parents' back, I didn't want him to lose his temper with me later, and ignored me for a few days.
I feel very chilled when I think of my grandson, whom I love wholeheartedly, so uncompetitive and ignorant.
On the eve of my granddaughter's college entrance examination, I specially called my son back once and asked some things about my granddaughter, and my son told me that my granddaughter's study has always been grasped by her mother, and they are under a lot of pressure, and they are very nervous every day.
I look at it coldly now, it's better to be the eldest son, the eldest son has been calm and calm since he was a child, and the eldest daughter-in-law has a more rational personality, not only has he cultivated his granddaughter very well over the years, and he has bought a house and a car, but he is the younger son and daughter-in-law, the two of them will not live, the grandson is so old, and he still lives with us, the money earned by the two of them has been spent, and there is no plan for the future, and the grandson's grades are not good, and there will be no future for the future.
I later told my eldest son, they all said that raising children depends on children, seeing that you are doing so well now, I think that we are also old, and in the future, I will still want to rely on you when your father and I are not in good health, you are the boss, and we will count on you for everything in the future.
The eldest son didn't say anything when he heard this, but only said that as a son of man, he would definitely do what he should be filial.
But what I want is not this answer, what I think in my heart is that the younger son is not reliable at all, and they are not filial, and I want to rely on the eldest son for the elderly in the future.
The granddaughter successfully took the college entrance examination and was later admitted to a key university with high scores.
When I learned the good news, I happily sent several messages in the group of friends and relatives one after another, and the eldest son later told me that I should be low-key, just let my children be good, there is no need to say it, I can't accept the eldest son's treatment of others.
I thought it must be the eldest daughter-in-law's intention, she was afraid that I would tell these things, but it was a good thing, why can't I say it, and I told the neighbors the good news.
Later, my granddaughter got the admission letter, and I discussed with my wife to take 50,000 yuan from my savings, and I went to my son's house with the money.
When I explained my intention and handed the money to my daughter-in-law, my daughter-in-law politely waved her hand and said no, I felt a little embarrassed and went to stuff it to my granddaughter, who also said no while stepping back, and she also said that my parents had already prepared the money for school.
At this time, my son came over, and he stuffed the big red envelope back into my hand and sent me downstairs.
Along the way, my son said, my heart and their husband and wife both know, and said that we are old, this money should be kept for our own retirement, and they have already prepared the money for the children's education, don't worry about us.
I was still thinking about stuffing the money back into my son's hand, but the eldest son suddenly said: Mom, you should stop!
My son later said, my intention is actually he also knows that the unhappiness of the past has passed, if the eldest daughter-in-law takes this money, she will have a burden in her heart, and it is impossible to let the eldest daughter-in-law bear all the responsibilities of the elderly, rather than this, it is better for me to adjust my mentality.
The eldest son promised me that he would not ignore us when we were old, but the younger brother and sister-in-law could not stay out of the matter, everyone was an adult, who should not be used to whom, he was a son and could not care, but the eldest daughter-in-law must be accountable.
Hearing my son say this, I was full of emotion in my heart, I have no other way to do it, blame only my granddaughter for being young, I didn't treat her well, and now I want to ask my eldest daughter-in-law to be good to me, it is indeed a bit extravagant.