"Without love, we can be lovers, but without love, we can't be lovers. In marriage, most couples get married first and then fall in love. Even in the days of grandparents and parents, there was no love between them. "Yet they have lived together like a couple for the rest of their lives, and the longer they live together, the closer they become. In the 50s of the 20th century, many people born in the 60s have lived together for more than 30 years and have established a deep relationship. I've seen a lot of couples like my in-laws, their parents were on good terms at the time, they were an enviable couple and they are still on good terms. They sometimes quarrel over trivial matters, but her father-in-law, the law, always leaves her alone. They were very affectionate when they were young, and now they live together. 40 years later, their relationship is even stronger.
For many of us post-80s, we get married first and then fall in love. We are not married for love. Many of us post-80s generations met through blind dates. It's the same with me. We are not married for love. I'm married, and so is my cousin. My cousin and cousin also got married first and then fell in love. We got married shortly after we met. We've been married for 15 years. Their relationship is beautiful, just like first love, walking hand in hand, but like other couples who have hated each other for a long time.
In fact, many couples are not married to the person they love. We always miss our loved ones and it is difficult to see them again. When we grow up, we all do this because our parents encourage us to get married. Let's get married. When two people get married, they can spend the rest of their lives together even if they don't love each other. Why. Because many people think that since they are married, they should do their best to make their marriage happy. "Well, we're not going to divorce easily, no, we broke up because we don't love each other anymore. Too many people get old and just get married for the sake of getting married, and they feel that this person is right for them, and then they get divorced. "Even if they don't love each other, it's okay to like each other, but in reality, they don't love each other. If you get along for a long time, you will have feelings. The human heart is made of meat, and after getting along for a long time, feelings will naturally arise. The two may not have an emotional foundation at first, but after getting married, they will gradually fall in love with each other and gradually accept each other, and after the birth of the child, they should manage their married life. Countless contradictions are slowly being reconciled. Slowly integrate yourself into the relationship. In fact, no matter who you marry, there will be conflicts. Slowly let the contradictions merge. In this way, there will be fewer and fewer contradictions, and the relationship will become stronger and more stable.
You can't be a lover without love. First of all, he can't be with you, let alone share your ups and downs like a partner. Gradually develop the relationship. In front of a lover, there must be enough love. "I gave everything to this man. Marriage is different. It comes with responsibility. If there is no love between lovers, only skin to skin and bed partners, then the relationship will not last long. Find out why 'why it's so hard' "Because lovers have to love enough to be together, and it may not be for material satisfaction, and material things don't last. A lot of people don't just become lovers with anyone. "Not in love, not together, but as a couple.
Most people want the best for their lover. You will feel joy and happiness in the presence of your lover, but once the novelty wears off, the relationship will not last long. Only someone who loves enough will pay for him, why recommend? Lovers are just a romantic relationship, and it is impossible to spend the rest of your life together, let alone the joys and sorrows of the rest of your life. So the relationship is over, but husband and wife are different, there is no love between husband and wife, but there is family affection, even if love becomes family affection, the relationship has changed, and the other party will always cherish each other. The love for this family and the frustrations they face together.
Even without love, you can still be a couple. Husbands and wives don't necessarily love each other, but they can be together for a lifetime. Even when they lose their temper, they still live together faithfully. But there are lovers who don't do it without love. It's heartbreaking, but it's real.