In fact, in the face of love, we all feel inferior to a greater or lesser extent. As Zhang Ailing said in Hu Lancheng's letter, when I met you, I would be very low, as low as dust, but my heart liked it. Bloom from the dust.
1. The more I am in front of the people I like, the more inferior I become.
When we meet someone we really like, we feel like we're not good enough to be worthy of that person. Everyone has probably had this experience in their school days. Falling in love with someone.
Xiaoyun had a crush on a boy in high school. Xiaoyun falls in love with a boy at first sight. At that time, the boy had just transferred to a new school. Xiaoyun had a good impression of the boy. As time passed, Xiaoyun discovered that the boy was very intelligent and had an excellent academic performance. He is smart, athletic, kind-hearted......A charming prince in the eyes of a girl. In Xiaoyun's opinion, he has many advantages, but in front of the person he likes, he can't say a word to the boy, I think so. I miss him terribly, especially on weekends. I wanted to see him when I was a student, and now I want to see him more and more. I fantasized about being with him, always calling out his name to test if we could be together. 。
However, Xiao Yun always felt inferior in front of this teenager. She always felt that she was not worthy of the boy and was worried that he would like her. At first I thought I was okay, but I couldn't compare to him. "Far away, I'm afraid that the boy doesn't like her, he likes girls who are better than Xiao Yun, so he has been hiding in his heart, he has been gone for a long time, and I have a crush on Xiao Yun. I never dared to do that. "I confess. Every time I want to confess to my partner and can't find the words, I think I can be more proactive if I like it. After that, I graduated. After going to another school, Xiaoyun lost even more confidence, worried that if this boy met someone he liked as good as himself in another school, he would definitely meet someone better, and I also met it.
Most of us are like little clouds. The more I loved him, the more I felt inferior. We worry that the other person doesn't like us, that we're going to be rejected, or that we're going to be unhappy together. When you like someone, you become more and more worried and cautious, and sometimes you don't even have the courage to confess and are not even in the mood to send messages to the other person. I repeated the phrase over and over again, but quickly retracted it.
2.We fear that if our relationship progresses further, we will become strangers, or if we take a step back, we will become enemies rather than lovers. We were afraid that after telling each other, we would become strangers, and we were also afraid of being with each other, and after being together, he would not be able to make her happy, and we would become enemies, not lovers, so I didn't have the courage to take any initiative.
Kobayashi has a good background, good grades, and a bright future. She is the focal point of the house. I have been loved by my parents since I was a child, and I have never suffered anything. Mr. Chen's family environment is very poor. Her parents are both office workers and do calculations every day. He lives alone in the city, without a house and without a car. Compared to Kobayashi, his conditions are really worlds apart. However, Xiao Chen fell in love. Xiao Chen, who was with Xiao Lin but had nothing, was pulled back to his own world, feeling that he couldn't give Xiao Lin happiness at all, and felt that the two were not from the same world, but just silently guarding Xiao Lin. I'm glad that's all. "He just did what he believed in, and he didn't do it easily. Ever since he had changed, they had kept their distance and ignored Kobayashi. ”
This is how we love someone. We always feel that we are not good enough, that we are not worthy of them, that we do not compare ourselves to them, that we always feel that we cannot make them happy. 。Therefore, you can only hide it silently in your heart and dare not say it out loud, but in fact, judging whether a person loves you or not can only be judged by whether he is good to you, not whether he is good to you. When this person loves you, he loves you. "With you, there is a kind of love, the deeper I love you, the less I love you. I care about you, have you ever encountered it? ”