Kinship is an important link in the society of acquaintances, but now more and more young people are abandoning the custom of Spring Festival New Year's greetings, and not going to relatives and not paying New Year's greetings is becoming a new way to celebrate the New Year. The reasons for this are as follows:
The world is bustling, all for profit, the world is bustling, all for profit, this is an ancient saying, but also the essence of interpersonal relationships. In the past, we lived in a circle of acquaintances, and maintaining good relationships with relatives and friends was necessary for survival, but now, we all live in cities, and this tradition-based blood relationship is gradually fading.
I remember when I first went out to work, I had no foothold in the city, and I relied on the help of relatives to get out of the countryside, and now, everyone lives in the city, everyone has their own career, and there is no need to seek refuge with relatives and friends to find the fulcrum of life. For most of us ordinary people, you can't help your relatives, and your relatives can't help you, for example, if you are in trouble and borrow money from your relatives, will your relatives lend you? Similarly, if a relative asks you to borrow money, do you borrow or not?
As the saying goes: talking about money hurts feelings, and talking about feelings hurts money, this sentence is also very appropriate for relatives. In a commercial society, all human activities are centered on money, and simple kinship based on blood ties is obviously not in line with the principle of pragmatism. Therefore, it is not impossible to cut off unnecessary interpersonal interactions and devote more energy to reaching out to people who are helpful to your own development.
Spring Festival greetings are a traditional custom, which is essentially a kind of formalistic socialization, meeting is not to talk about things, it is purely to go through the motions, asking you to be polite, and you will be considered impolite.
Many people go to relatives' homes to pay New Year's greetings are the opinions of the elders, not from the hearts of young people, in fact, when they meet, they will greet each other, talk absentmindedly about some innocuous topics, and then have a meal with everyone, just such a process, to ask if there is any substantial gain, nothing more than relatives to stuff a small red envelope for you.
It doesn't matter if you go to a family of relatives, but some people have many relatives, and they have to run more than a dozen places to pay New Year's greetings, and they go to their aunt's house, so they naturally have to go to their aunt's house, and they can't favor one over the other.
For a young person in the career development period, this kind of formalistic socialization is not what they want, they are busy with work all year round, and there is a traffic jam on the way home for the New Year, and when they get home, they want to rest and rest, adjust themselves, and when they return to the city, they will be busy again, so it is right not to pay New Year's greetings. The core point of renunciation is to be self-centered, and to give up those things that we don't need, including New Year's greetings.
As the saying goes: no one asks if you are poor in the downtown area, but you have distant relatives in the mountains. If you are very poor, even if you go to your relatives' house to pay New Year's greetings, people do not appreciate it, and the gifts you bring are disliked by others as low-grade goods, which is the so-called kinship, and it is also a reality.
New Year's greetings to relatives, it's not a very comfortable thing, I don't know if you feel it, anyway, I feel it, when I get to my relatives' house, I don't stand or sit, the elders are very enthusiastic about you, and they are particularly concerned, so that you are often at a loss, in fact, you are not familiar with them.
Once a relative asks you about your salary, marriage, and house, it will be extremely embarrassing, tell a lie, it's not your character, tell the truth, it's equivalent to taking off the **.
Although people are social animals, but in a strange environment, there is always a little awkward, because everyone does not understand each other, pay attention to speaking, gifts should be appropriate, and pay attention to etiquette when eating, etc., these red tape makes young people even more dislike New Year's greetings, so many young people would rather lie at home and play with their mobile phones, but they are not willing to go out, and their parents can't move.
In the eyes of the elders, young people should move around more, not hide in the house as soon as they get home, they don't understand that being alone is also a way of life, in a self-environment, people are more likely to get inner peace and find their own happiness.
Each of us is an independent individual, with self-judgment, but also the right to choose, in fact, whether to worship the New Year or not is secondary, after all, the days are their own, to find a way of life that suits them, to be a true self, to achieve the ideal life is the most important.
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