Children are troubled by many parents:
In the morning, I am in a hurry to go to work and school, and my children wash slowly, eat slowly, and dress and put on shoes slowly.
I was finally about to go out, and I said again: I want to go to the toilet, and then squat for a long time without coming out.
When I get home in the evening, I have to do my homework, and the child is not in a hurry. Eat something, drink some water, go to the bathroom, organize your bag, and after an hour, you can finally sit down at your desk and start writing.
When I write, I will look for an eraser, scratch my head, and then be in a daze. Look at it, good guys, write two lines in an hour.
At this time, the fire in the parents' hearts couldn't be suppressed, and they began to yell: Hurry up!
Friction is a kind of self-protection for children
Rogers, an American master of clinical psychology, said that the unconditional and positive attention of parents is the most important thing for children. The child's sense of security comes from the unconditional love of his parents, who do not make any demands and condemn him, no matter what his shortcomings are.When parents blame their children for grinding, from a guardian who cares for their children in every possible way, to a "monster" who blames their children as a whole, the children's psychology is not acceptable, they will seek resistance, and expect their resistance to be effective, and regain the sense of security in their hearts!
Moreover, in today's test-oriented education environment, children are overwhelmed by the pressure of homework, and parents and teachers strictly require children to complete their homework efficiently, which makes it easy for children to form a psychology of "can't finish it anyway, it's better to do it slowly".
Habits are not formed
In the book "Your Brain Determines Your Behavior": There is also an internal psychological mechanism for friction, which has a certain relationship with congenital heredity, but it is more related to the habit of acquisition.Researchers believe that the age of 0 6 is a critical period for children to develop behavioral habits. If parents are always in a hurry at this stage, do not develop good living habits for their children, and do not consciously cultivate their children's decisive and rapid work habits, it is easy to lead to the formation of friction in children.
The following three methods are worth learning from.
Once upon a time, I myself was also a "walking human alarm clock", yelling at the child to eat, take a bath, clean up toys, and prepare ** programs every night, and every morning was to call the child to get up, urge her to change clothes, brush her teeth and wash her face, eat breakfast, and remind her from time to time to hurry up otherwise she will be late, and worry about the preparation of the child before school.
The voice of the speaker changed from a soft voice before marriage to a "Hedong lion roar", and even for a while, because the baby talked too much, he got pharyngitis.
Help your child make good use of their own time
When parents find independent time for their children, they can help him use his own independent time. If time is not well used, it is equivalent to a waste. Some children may not know how to arrange their time reasonably at first, parents may wish to guide their children to think at this time, such as how to make their grades better, or make their lives more meaningful, so that children will consider what to do according to these two questions in their independent time. If children want to improve their grades, they can do a good job of pre-class preview and after-class notes, or read some literary works, if they want to become better, they can cultivate their own interests, learn their favorite skills, or plant flowers, raise small animals, and do something meaningful.
Help your child make plans
How to make children's learning not boring and learn to arrange time reasonably is the most important, so parents should help their children make daily and weekly plans.
Even if you don't need to follow an accurate daily plan, it can give your child a sense of direction.
For example, divide weekend homework into Friday evenings and weeks.
6. Three days a week, not one day.
The sooner parents guide their children to learn how to manage their time and adjust their own learning methods, the stronger their children's learning advantages will be.
I would like to share with you a set of books that teach children to learn time management, "Watch at School" series.
This set of 8 books is suitable for children in lower grades, and corresponds to key issues in children's learning, such as how to manage their time and how to complete homework easily.
Who stole my time" guides children to arrange their time reasonably and not to do "little procrastination".
This book can help children easily understand what going to school is all about.
Writing homework is no longer difficult for me" tells children that writing homework is actually very simple.
I'm not afraid of exams" tells children that by doing so, they can get good grades.
A set of 8 volumes, ** is not expensive, but it can cultivate children's time management skills and become excellent children.
Through humorous and imaginative stories, the book adds appropriate fairy tale colors to real life, and tells the story to the hearts of children.
While reading the story, the book also proposes many practical ways to teach children how to manage their time and how to better complete their homework ......
This set of extracurricular reading materials imported from South Korea can help children quickly adapt to school life, develop good study habits, and develop good time management habits from an early age.