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Are you prone to self-denial, manipulation, misleading by incomplete information, being influenced by the outside world, and having a hard time sticking to your principles?
There is a well-known theory in psychology called "birdcage logic".
A says to B: "If I give you a birdcage to hang in the most conspicuous place in your house, there may be nothing you can do. "Passed. How long does it take to buy this bird? ”
B said dissatisfied. "I've never had a bird, and I wouldn't do such a stupid thing. ”
So a bought a bird. I gave b something beautiful. Put it in a birdcage and hang it at house B.
Then, whenever someone sees a birdcage, they ask b: "When did your bird die and why?" ”
Even after B's explanation, the guest was weird. If you don't. If you don't keep birds, why hang bird cages?
Eventually, people began to suspect that something was wrong with B's brain, so B had to buy a bird and put it in a cage. It's much easier than explaining it to everyone endlessly.
Mindset is indeed a powerful force in relationships.
It affects people's behavior patterns and ways of thinking, and can sometimes make people feel helpless.
The reason why you often deny yourself and find it difficult to stick to your principles is actually because the outside world has brought you these influences, and the outside world has made you give up your inner principles.
As the saying goes, they are susceptible to outside influences, have no principles, and their returns are repeatedly low, and they are eventually manipulated and used by others.
It all depends on your qualities:
1.I have a habit of liking people.
2.Negative emotions.
3.I don't know how to say no.
4.There is no ego.
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If you find yourself in one of the above situations, will others take you seriously?
That may not be possible. If you don't value yourself, how can others value you?
If they don't disrespect you, then who are they?
That is, a problem was found. It's hard to completely change something right away, but finding the problem is the beginning of change.
First of all, you have to understand that not being respected does not mean that you are bad.
Being angry because of someone else's disrespect is the most pointless thing to do.
What really makes sense is to become a mature and experienced person as soon as possible, relying on a strong mind to eliminate the negative influences of others.
Ignore offensive, irritating words and negative influences.
Don't doubt yourself because of the disrespect of others.
They look down on you, which means that their character is also very bad.
Know that other people's evaluations are always just evaluations. If there are 1,000 people, there will be 1,000 different opinions.
Only you can decide what your life will be like and what kind of person you will become. You are the one who decides your life. Go your own way and let others decide.
Second, magnify your strengths and ignore your weaknesses.
As the saying goes, no one is perfect, and everyone has flaws. Great people don't think about how good they are, but because they know how to magnify their strengths and minimize their weaknesses.
Finally, you need to have your own position and principles, clearly express your attitude even to those closest to you, find and explain the illogical parts of the other person, express your thoughts.
In the end, for everything, I don't care.
There are too many things that cannot be loved and unsatisfactory, instead of sinking into pain, it is better to follow the following set of books to learn, be a sober person, and you will find that after going with the flow, everything becomes beautiful.
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