Workplace Skills Competition
The grievances in the workplace, as long as you are in it, no one can hide from it.
How to deal with grievances determines our next career path.
Is it from these grievances that only get hurt? Then with a victim mentality, see that everyone is a person who hurts himself, and see that everything is targeted by others, full of bitterness, and he is always angry when he talks and acts, making himself even more aggrieved?
Or do you find opportunities for growth and breakthroughs from these grievances? On the one hand, we are looking for the root cause of being misunderstood and blamed, and on the other hand, we are looking out of personal feelings and finding the shortcomings behind the grievances, so as to seek a breakthrough in change.
Of course, we know that it would be better if we could grow from our grievances. But the problem is that grievances are difficult to swallow. If someone else has been wronged, what is so difficult about asking others to "bear with it and be wronged"? You can do it with your mouth. But when it happened to him, he said, "Why? "Why am I always the one who gets hurt? Why should I swallow my grievances in one gulp?
The reason why I feel wronged is because of the gap between reality and expectations. It's not good, it will be wronged; If it's not good enough, it will be wronged. If we feel wronged, we hope that someone will stand by our side and do justice for ourselves. And I haven't seen anyone stand up for a long time, explaining that the person who should be in charge of this matter does not understand the situation and does not know our grievances.
Therefore, it is no wonder that after some people in the workplace are wronged, their first reaction is to sue.
Who to sue? higher, third parties that we recognize. Sometimes it's the senior in charge, and sometimes it's going to go straight to the boss. They have a higher authority in the sense of responsibility to assert right and wrong in their work. In other words, "decide" right and wrong. We believe that they will definitely be on their side and will do justice for themselves.
However, after filing a lawsuit, it is not always possible to get a satisfactory result. What the wronged person wants, everyone confronts you, and the script of avenging you rarely happens. Most of the time, you'll feel like they're all in peace. Sometimes the people involved are called together and asked about the situation; Then, there is no then. Sometimes, all you get is a few words of comfort, a pat on the shoulder and say, "Forget it." "There are also some incarnations of justice that you had high hopes for, which will disappear the moment you send out the message of the complaint.
- Who are you going to reason with?
It's not impossible to sue, but you have to be able to sue. After all, in the workplace, what we hope to gain through complaints is often not only the emotional value of being comforted and affirmed, but also changing.
Therefore, the first thing to do is to clarify your thoughts by "writing the form". Do you want someone to be like Lord Qingtian and "make the decision" for you, and you have to write the form first, okay? Looking under the mustard tree, as a person concerned, a direct participant in the matter, the ins and outs can always be figured out. Even if you only have a single perspective and can't see it all, as long as you show the facts of what happened, not your personal feelings, it will be convincing enough.
In the process of organizing, we have the opportunity to re-examine our performance. It's going to be different from what I felt at the beginning. Our ideas and starting points may be fine. But when it comes to actual implementation, our words and deeds are likely to mislead others. If we don't realize this, we will think that we have been targeted and feel wronged. By sorting it out, the judgment that is already standing will be confirmed.
I convinced myself and went to find the justice I wanted.
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