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Recently, a wedding storm in Taiyuan, Shanxi Province has attracted widespread attention. The party said that when she attended the wedding of her graduate student in 2017, she gave 500 yuan as a gift. However, when she got married and invited her classmates to attend the wedding, the other party refused to attend on the grounds of pregnancy and did not take the initiative to return the gift. Therefore, the parties decided to recover the 500 yuan gift money.
Such an incident has aroused heated discussions among netizens, and some people support the decision of the parties, believing that since the other party has not fulfilled its promise to attend the wedding, it should take the initiative to return the gift. The meaning of the gift is to show blessing and concern, and if you ignore this heart, it is disrespectful to the friendship. Other netizens disagreed, believing that the recovery of the 500 yuan gift money was too trivial and not worth it. They believe that repairing and maintaining friendships is more important than money.
In this case, the decision of the parties has triggered people's thinking about the culture of courtesy. Suili has always played an important role in traditional Chinese weddings, not only as a blessing to the newlyweds, but also as a maintenance of family and friends. Because of this, society's attitudes towards Sui Li have also become complicated. Some people believe that a gift should be an expression of reciprocal courtesy, where one party should give it and the other party should reciprocate. But there are also those who believe that the gift is a symbol of friendship and should not be taken too seriously.
Sui Li is a very important part of traditional Chinese wedding culture, and it is also one of the ways to express blessings and care. However, for different groups of people, attitudes towards Sui Li are different.
On the one hand, some people believe that sui li is a social etiquette to show blessings and care for the newlyweds. Under this concept, Suilihui is seen as a kind of response and feedback, a traditional culture of social mutual assistance. According to the traditional Chinese concept, Sui Li is also a traditional custom between blood relatives, with its own specific etiquette and rules. In this view, there are certain regulations on the amount and manner of the gift, and the appropriate decision should be made according to one's own financial resources and relationship with the recipient.
On the other hand, there are also some people who think that there is no need to pay too much attention to the gift, and it is more important to sincerely wish and care. Gifts are just a form of expression and should not be the only criterion for friendship. Intimate relationships between people should be based on sincerity and understanding. They see the ritual as a form, not a substance. What matters is the real feeling of family and friendship, not the amount of money.
Either way, it reflects the complex attitude of society towards the gift. The meaning conveyed by the gift is far more than the money itself, it is related to the emotional bond between people and the maintenance of social relations.
As a traditional culture, Suili carries many people's expectations for friendship and family affection. However, with the development of society and the changes of people, the value and meaning of Sui Li are also gradually changing.
First of all, people are becoming more and more rational about their attitudes towards courtesy. While the salute is still a way to express blessings and concern, the demands on the amount and form tend to be calm and rational. People pay more attention to the actual situation and personal emotional investment, rather than blindly pursuing the amount of gift money.
Secondly, the changes in social relations also affect the form and manner of the ceremony. The mobility and diversity of modern society have led to the diversification of interpersonal relationships, and the original blood relationship and classmate friendship are no longer the only objects of gift. People are more likely to be involved in social networks and relationships, and the boundaries of friendship are more blurred. As a result, the way and principles of treating Sui Li are constantly changing.
Eventually, the meaning of the gift gradually shifts to sincerity and care. In the pursuit of substantial friendship and sincere blessings, people pay more attention to the consistency of words and deeds and the exchange of emotions. Gifts are just a form of expression, while true friendship is more important.
Regardless of the attitude towards Suili, we should understand that Suili is an expression and inheritance of traditional culture. In this process, we can learn from the wisdom of the ancients to treat Sui Li rationally and sincerely. As an expression of emotion, the gift should be based on sincerity and concern, rather than simply pursuing the amount of money.
In today's society, the maintenance of friendships and family ties has become more and more complex. Not all friendships are long-lasting and secure, which is a common feature of social change and interpersonal relationships. We should be understanding and respectful, cherish those friendships that are genuine and valuable, and learn to accept and let go of those estranged relationships.
Finally, whether in a casual gift or in a friendship, we should value expressions of sincerity and care. Money is not the only criterion for measuring friendship, but more importantly, the transmission of hearts and the exchange of emotions. Through a rational and sincere attitude, we can better understand and maintain friendships and create better social relationships.
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