I'll help you with emotional issues
First of all, is it a divorce or no divorce? It depends on what you think.
Are you still believing in love, unwilling to sink yourself, so "settled", hoping to toss again, have another chance to choose and start again, and then you can live the life you want, the marriage you want, and you can truly experience happiness and happiness between the sexes?
Or is it because I don't believe in love anymore, or I feel that I have already passed the passionate impulse period and romantic period, I have experienced everything I should have experienced, and I can't stand the toss anymore, I just want my wife to be peaceful and live a plain life, even if it is very boring, no longer happy, has some shortcomings, and becomes a kind of "will", and I will compromise with myself?
With two ideas, there are two choices: divorce or no divorce.
Secondly, if you are sure that your current marital status is a kind of "will", and you are unwilling, you don't want to "lie down", and you still have thoughts in your heart, then there is no doubt that you will firmly choose to divorce. And from the mainstream concept, how can marriage be "settled"? Rather than "will", it is better to divorce, even if it is alone, it is better than "will". It's just that before you firmly choose to divorce, you still have to have sufficient psychological construction, at least to understand the following points:
First, divorce is not about separation, it must be laborious, time-consuming and laborious, and it will involve a lot, the so-called "divorce cost", on the surface and **, are unbearable, can you afford it?
Second, divorce, not "willing", and thinking about it mean that there must be a second marriage. And the feeling of the second marriage will be completely different from the first marriage, there will be some utilitarian things, and I can't help but think more, not as pure as when I first married. And do you think that after divorce, you will definitely find your own true happiness? Not necessarily, it is very likely that the latter paragraph is not as good as the previous one.
Third, have you ever thought that maybe this marriage was inadvertently lived by you in such a "willing" state? At first, it was also you and me, and it was also passionate and romantic at the beginning, how did you live like this? This is the so-called "character determines destiny". If you still follow your current pattern and way of thinking and doing things, the latter paragraph may still repeat the same mistakes. If you don't want to change or grow yourself, even if the second or third paragraph, the future is not optimistic.
Finally, do you think that marriages are very happy and happy? It is often "the ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny". The trend of many marriages is actually like today's ** market, which has changed sharply from high to low, and has stayed at around 3,000 points for more than ten years. Aren't most of them "going to settle" like this?
So, is it a divorce or no divorce? You might as well weigh the pros and cons, and be cautious and think clearly before making a decision.