1. Upbringing and straightforwardness, meanness and true temperament.
In life, we often meet people who speak straight and are seen as "straightforward", but sometimes this bluntness makes people feel uneducated.
For example, in a party, someone who directly criticizes someone else's dress or eating habits may be well-intentioned, but in a way that makes people feel uncomfortable.
True bluntness is based on understanding and respect for others, rather than simply and rudely expressing one's own opinions.
On the other hand, meanness is a negative expression that does not represent true disposition, but rather a disservice to others.
Therefore, we can't simply take uneducated as straightforward, and don't take meanness as true disposition.
2. There is no absolute right or wrong.
Everyone's upbringing, life experience, and values are different, which leads to different perspectives and positions on the same thing.
For example, you may be critical of a social event, believing that it is not done right. But another person may think it's reasonable and there's no problem.
This is not to say that one side is right and the other side is wrong, it is just that everyone has a different opinion.
Therefore, when communicating with others, we should respect each other's differences and not judge others lightly. After all, in this world, there is no absolute right or wrong.
3. You don't have to deliberately please others.
In order to be recognized by others in the workplace or in social situations, we sometimes unconsciously do things that we are not willing to do to meet the expectations of others.
For example, in order to gain the favor of the leader, we may do something that violates our own principles; In order to win the favor of our friends, we may go and say something insincere.
But is it really worth it? Over time, we will find that what we receive is not real friendship or respect, but momentary pleasure and false flattery.
Therefore, instead of deliberately pleasing others, it is better to focus on being yourself so that you can be truly recognized and successful.
4. Stay away from bad relationships.
In our lives, we will always meet people who associate with us for some kind of benefit, not for true friendship or respect.
For example, some people approach us only because of the power or resources in our hands; Others do it to use our fame and status to raise their own image.
These relationships are often unhealthy because they are based on interest rather than sincerity. If we rely too much on this relationship, we may end up losing our independence and dignity.
Therefore, we should be vigilant about this kind of bad interpersonal relationship and stay away as much as possible.
5. Don't turn over old accounts.
In interpersonal communication, it is inevitable that there will be some contradictions and misunderstandings. Some people like to dig over old accounts and bring up past grievances and grievances over and over again, which not only does not solve the problem, but only makes things more complicated.
In a conjugal quarrel, if one party always turns over past mistakes to blame the other party, it will only make the quarrel more intense and hurt the feelings between the husband and wife.
In fact, really smart people don't dwell on the past. Instead, they will choose to let go of the past and focus on the present and future. Only in this way can you make your life easier and more comfortable.