Most wives do not choose to divorce after being cheated, but not because they love cheating men more, they are basically forced by reality, because they are not financially independent, they have to rely on cheating men, because they are not emotionally independent, they always have expectations for cheating men, they are worried about their children, they are afraid that divorce will have a bad impact on their children's growth, and so on.
The wives are in various ways, and they can't get a divorce directly, but they can't get by.
If you want to continue your marriage, wives need to do three things, and flying is very important.
The first point is to grasp the handle of the cheating man.
What is the handle of a cheating man?
Blue Fang has dealt with an extramarital affair case before, and this wife is very fond of collecting the handles of cheating men.
For example, if a cheating man is at work and inquires about his personal affairs, the original partner will keep the evidence.
The original partner said that she has always felt that this man is restless, because during the relationship between the two people, the man likes to chat with other women.
When she found out, she had been talking for more than five years, and she couldn't let go of this relationship and her youth, so she still got married.
After getting married, I feel that the cheating man will not correct it because he has children and assumes the responsibility of marriage, so the original partner is actually guarding against cheating men, so he keeps collecting men's handles.
The original partner said that she usually doesn't expose it, and she won't use the handle to pinch a cheating man.
She just wants to give herself a reassurance, to leave a way out for herself, not to treat the cheating man as a whole.
If a man doesn't cheat, these are just retreats for her to collect, if a man cheats, then don't blame her for taking advantage of the weakness of the cheating man and rectifying the cheating man.
This original match was very successful, and the man was quite arrogant when he was discovered.
told the original partner that he was originally attentive, didn't the original partner know, and chose to marry him.
One is cheating, anyway, you can't do without him, and you can't bear him, so you can't do anything about him.
The original partner took out the handle of the cheating man, and the cheating man was not arrogant.
Although he was still not convinced, he thought that his wife would not be able to do anything to him.
As a result, the original partner wrote an anonymous letter on the same day, reporting that the cheating man was using the public for personal gain.
It's just that the original partner didn't provide evidence, and the cheating man was interviewed, but it didn't work.
The cheating man is scared. Naturally, they didn't dare to continue cheating.
The second point is to keep the joint property of the husband and wife.
The joint property of husband and wife is also a weakness for many cheating men.
Especially if the couple has been married for many years and has made a lot of money by starting a business together.
As long as the wives insist on divorce, there is evidence of the man's cheating.
Wives can divide more than half of the property, the cheating man said that he was worth tens of millions before, but after the divorce, it shrank to a million, and the cheating man will definitely not be able to accept it.
So why are men who have good terms to cheat, although they are prone to cheating, but they are afraid of divorce.
As long as the wives are not emotionally dependent on the cheating man, they will not give in to the matter of the man's cheating.
If you really have the idea of divorce, you won't put your ideas into action, and the cheating man will most likely be afraid and choose to listen to his wife's relationship with the mistress.
Wives must be on guard, cheating men will transfer property in advance.
The cheating man knows his weakness, once he has the idea of divorce and marrying a mistress.
The first time must be to solve their own weakness, so wives don't give cheating men a chance.
We must guard against cheating men, and we must guard the joint property of husband and wife, that is, the interests of the original spouse.
The third point is to accumulate your own hole cards.
Any woman, in your marriage, really relies on yourself.
The other half is never a completely reliable existence, because even if there is no extramarital affair, there is a struggle for power in marriage.
Whether you are doing well in your marriage is directly related to how many rights you have fought for, and how much power you can fight for is related to the strength and hole cards of the wives themselves.
Some of the original partners don't even have the basic right to speak, and the big and small things in the family are all decided by the cheating man.
Cheating may not be a big deal for a cheating man, just a small affair.
Wives can't help cheating on men, you don't want to divorce, you don't have hole cards yet, you can only accept it.
So the wife who does not divorce, you have discovered your own shortcomings because of the extramarital affair.
You can be a temporary loser, but you must not suppress losing.
You can't help but cheat on a man, why do you have to accept an extramarital affair.
Only by solving this reason can you continue your marriage and make yourself better.
Whether a woman is happy or unhappy in a marriage does not just depend on whether her husband loves him or not.
It's the woman's own capital, who has money and power, and can still hold the cheating man, so that she can live well.
Not loving in marriage is the norm, and the probability of husband and wife falling in love with each other all the time is the lowest, so whether you are happy or not, your own capital is the most important.
You have to do that even if this man is not in love and betrayed, you still have the ability to control the marriage and the capital to live well.
Failure in marriage does not mean that your life has failed, and it does not mean that you will not be able to be happy.
Even if you don't get divorced, you have ways to make your life better.
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