I don't know if you feel that the age of fifty is a very interesting watershed in life, not only dividing two completely different periods of life, but also losing the laws and goals under the guidance of the mainstream social system.
For example, 0-10 years old, the goal of this decade is to eat and play well, have a healthy and optimistic body, there are countless picture books, animations and toys for this age range on the market, the definition of excellent is very clear, parents will accompany their children to work in that direction.
10-20 years old, the only task in this decade is to study, and the assessment standards are still simple and clear.
Then come to the age of 20-30, this decade will be more challenging, not only the transition between school and the workplace, but also the choice of love and marriage, extending the joy of pregnancy and childbirth, the arrangement is full, and it is not allowed to give people time to breathe, and it will be 30-40 years old.
The goal of this decade is about to make money, and work hard towards the road of life winners with a garage in hand and a doubling of deposits, everyone is afraid of falling behind, and the atmosphere is very tense. But as soon as I crossed to the age of 50, around the different big goals of the first half of my life, all of a sudden it was gone, and it seemed that I could live no matter how I lived, and many people were empty all of a sudden, and in order to relieve the suppressed unhappiness, they put all their thoughts on health preservation.
Take playing games as an example, before the age of fifty, what to do is arranged clearly, just follow the NPC's prompts step by step to fight monsters and break through, and since the age of fifty, it has become a custom mode, and all planning needs to be decided by yourself, so many things that turn on the red light in middle-aged life have happened. Then the ancestor warned the middle-aged man that "fifty relatives and three people, such as playing with fire" is worth pondering.
First of all, there is no accurate answer to who the ancestor is, perhaps it is the experience summary made by the old man who has suffered a loss, and he believes that the three types of people who should be cautiously approached at the age of fifty are: lovers, friends with wine and meat, and people with honey and belly. Why is getting close to these three types of people like playing with fire? Let's start with the consequences of being close to a lover.
Whether men and women reach the age of about fifty, their own feelings have lasted for several years to a dull period, but people's emotional needs still exist, and at this time, the gentle and understanding lover who appears in life has a huge **.
The love of the first lover will make the middle-aged people who are about to enter old age feel the vitality of their long-lost youth, and it is easy to awaken the passion that has been sealed for many years by family trivialities and even the pressure of making money; The care of the second lover is particularly precious for middle-aged people who see the warmth and coldness of people's hearts, and the probability of moving true feelings will be quite high, so there is a saying in "The Siege" that "the love of the elderly is like an old house on fire, once the momentum rises, it will be blazing and unstoppable".
Then the serious end with the lover is that the originally harmonious and peaceful family life is broken, the cheating party will be grief-stricken, and the children will feel deeply incomprehensible and stay away from standing on the inner side of being let down. And the lover who paid such a big price in exchange will not be reliable, because the emotional foundation is too weak, so once there are various problems such as physical or economic problems, they will fly separately in the face of great difficulties, and thus end up alone.
Let's look at why you can't get close to wine and meat friends, at the age of 50, everyone has some savings in hand, and cheating investment, cheating to buy products, and cheating to buy some fake things with only gimmicks are all things that wine and meat friends will do. At the beginning, they will say nice things to gain the trust of the other party, and then use brainless ways to coax people into confusion, and then they begin to make calculations and plans according to their needs, so as to defeat all the old money that they have accumulated in the first half of their lives.
In the end, it is necessary to stay away from the people who are honey-bellied, they are even more terrible than the drinking and meat friends who only cheat some money, once they lead you to get involved in drugs, gambling and other vices, not only will your life be manipulated by them, but the second half of your life will also be infinitely degraded to the point where it cannot end. That's why we get close to these three types of people, like the metaphor of playing with fire. Playing with fire is naturally stimulating, but if you are not careful, you will burn yourself, and the best way to avoid being affected is to stay away from these sources of danger.
It stands to reason that these three types of people are full of lethality at all times, why did the ancestors deliberately tell people around the age of fifty? It is roughly divided into three reasons, the first is that at the age of fifty, the ability to resist risks is already very weak, unlike the young twenty years old, even if he is deceived into a mess, he still has the opportunity to turn over, and he will be praised for the prodigal son's return to the gold.
But if you are abandoned by your lover at the age of fifty, deceived by your friends with wine and meat, and tricked by people with honey and belly, except for a very few people who can turn the tables Jedi, most people can only use the second half of their lives to reminisce about this bitter fruit.
Then the body is not as strong as when he was young, and it is not so easy to ease up after being hit, and he has seen too many examples around him, all of which are one thought, either believing in others to invest all his net worth, and as a result, he was deceived and lost all his money, or he abandoned his original partner with his lover, and finally his lover left ruthlessly, and he rushed to the head in one breath, and he died of cerebral thrombosis at least at worst, and died of a heart attack directly after a heavy one.
In addition, the age of 50 is very decent, no matter what kind of people close to you are deceived, the pressure of society is difficult to bear. Whether it is the fingering from relatives and friends, or the gossip of colleagues, it is a burden that cannot be borne at this age, after all, being close to a lover means that he is lustful, being deceived by a friend of wine and meat shows that he is greedy for money, and letting the people with a sweet belly and sword get into bad habits, which makes people in the former social circle have to hide.
All of a sudden, from a comfortable and smooth life, to the negative teaching materials in the mouths of the people around him, this day is a different change, but anyone who loves face will not be able to stand it, but he can't be like a young man, change his face to a new city and start again, so he can't go back in a daze.
After all, most of the fifty-year-old middle-aged people who are close to these three types of people and eventually regret it, they don't think about the consequences at the beginning, grit their teeth and want to go crazy, but they follow their feelings without thinking so much, and the comfort, happiness and excitement at the beginning turn sharply into uncomfortable bad days every day. People with great lethality will never appear in your life in a terrifying manner, and they will be wrapped in a sweet mask, but when the mask is uncovered, it is a bitter and indescribable truth.