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In the society we live in, there are many traditional customs and habits, especially during the Chinese New Year. Many people are restricted and sometimes even controversial because they have to follow these customs. A recent family dispute in Anhui is a case in point. The son-in-law did not agree to celebrate the New Year at his father-in-law's mother-in-law's house, and this seemingly trivial matter caused an argument between them. Behind this are issues of personal perception, family values and respect. Let's take a look at the details of this story and think about the reasoning.
Chinese New Year is a very important thing for Chinese. Especially for married daughters and daughters-in-law, going back to their parents' home for the New Year is an important emotional sustenance. The woman goes back to her parents' house for the New Year not only to accompany her parents, but also to let her children get close to her grandparents and feel the warmth of home. The woman's parents did not have a son, so they were particularly happy about the arrival of their daughter's family. They proposed that their daughter's family should spend the New Year in their own home, hoping to make their daughter and granddaughter feel the warmth and flavor of home. Although according to local custom, women are not allowed to go back to their parents' homes for the New Year, but Mom and Dad don't care about that.
However, the woman's husband expressed his disagreement with spending the New Year at her father-in-law's house. He believes that his daughter-in-law should celebrate the New Year at her mother-in-law's house after she gets married, and should not celebrate the New Year at her mother's house. He insisted that it was a matter of customs, believing that he was not the son of his father-in-law and that he could not spend the New Year at his father-in-law's house at will. As a result, there was a fierce dispute in this small family in Anhui. The son-in-law thought that his father-in-law's demands were unreasonable, and even thought that his father-in-law's practice of sticking to customs was feudal superstition.
This family dispute has sparked reflections on family relationships, traditions, and respect. On the one hand, the husband of the child is defending his wife and protecting his marital relationship. He believes that his daughter-in-law's celebration of the New Year at her mother's house violates traditional customs and even undermines his dignity as a husband. However, from another point of view, the request of the father-in-law and mother-in-law is also to be able to spend more time with their daughters and children, and bring them happiness and warmth. It is a matter of balancing the importance of respecting traditional customs and the wishes of the family.
The dispute also triggered deeper thinking about the daughter-in-law spending the New Year at home. The woman said that sometimes she feels more secure raising her son, because it is difficult to ensure that her parents receive enough care and care after her daughter gets married. However, we cannot generalize, every family's situation is different. Some sons-in-law are very close to their father-in-law and mother-in-law and are willing to drive thousands of miles to their father-in-law's house for the New Year and live with them. It depends on the attitude of the in-laws towards their daughter-in-law and the individual's character. On the other hand, if a woman wants to go back to her parents' home for the New Year, she should also strive to achieve her independence, maintain a close relationship with her parents, and find a partner who has the same three views, so that she can choose the place where she will celebrate the New Year according to her wishes.
In general, respect is the most basic principle in family relationships. We should find a balance between traditional customs and personal wishes. Mutual respect and understanding between family members is key, and only then can everyone feel happy and satisfied. New Year's flavor is not only a custom, but also the transmission of family affection and the warmth of home. Let's tailor our own New Year's way for our own family, so that every family member can feel the strong taste of the New Year and the taste of happiness.
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