I asked the nanny to take care of me, but my daughter-in-law was so indifferent
As a mother-in-law, I have always adhered to the principles of respect and distance in handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. I was well aware of the complexity of the relationship, so I told my son early on that I would choose to live independently and not interfere with his family when I got married.
My wife and I have a pension that we will use for our son to support his learning and development. We want him to grow up happily and we want him to have a happy family.
Our love for our son is selfless and we only hope that he will be able to achieve his dreams. In my opinion, this is the best support and blessing I can give to my son.
After graduating from university, my son went to Shanghai to struggle, and a few years later moved to Wuhan, which is not too far from home, and I visited him a few times when he was in college, and his career there developed like a fish in water, which made me feel very relieved.
Soon, the son found a local partner, a girl from other places, I heard that they had known each other for a long time, and they were very affectionate, as long as the son liked me, they planned to get married.
Of course I was very happy, and we got busy with their wedding. My wife and I took out half of our life savings to buy a house for them in the city, prepare for the wedding, and look at the happy smiles of my son and daughter-in-law, I feel that all the efforts are worth it, as long as they live happily and happily.
My son and daughter-in-law moved to the city after getting married, and my wife and I stayed in our hometown. They are busy with work and rarely have time to come back to see us, which I can understand, and I don't blame them.
My son often calls me ** and buys me gifts for holidays, which makes me feel very satisfied. I don't have much contact with my daughter-in-law, and probably because of the age gap, we don't have much in common.
But we respected each other and never had a fight, which I think is good. That year, my daughter-in-law gave birth to a child, and it happened that I had some physical problems, so I didn't take care of her.
I spent 5,000 yuan to hire a nanny to take care of her confinement, and my daughter-in-law didn't say anything, but I knew she had an opinion about me in her heart. Later, I heard that because I didn't take care of her confinement, she quarreled with my son a few times, and I felt very uncomfortable.
After the daughter-in-law gave birth, she didn't go to work and became a full-time wife. I occasionally visit my grandson and buy him toys and clothes. My relationship with my daughter-in-law seems to have eased a lot, and she also bought me clothes, which I am very happy about.
This year I had some health problems and went to the hospital. My wife is also not in good health and takes medicine all year round. The son is busy at work, the grandson is in kindergarten, and the daughter-in-law is relatively idle. So my son offered to let her take care of me for a few days, and my daughter-in-law agreed.
But her behavior chilled me. Every day, she would come over and order takeout for me, and she would leave after eating without a word of concern. I need to find ** to help go to the toilet, and people ask me, "What about your son and daughter-in-law?"
Why is no one taking care of you? "I don't have the face to answer the question. I could only endure the grievances and dare not tell my son, for fear that their husband and wife would have conflicts. Since then, my relationship with my daughter-in-law has become very distant, and although I am kind on the surface, I am actually very cold.