Adolescence is an important stage in the development of a child's mental maturity and independence, but it is also a time when the parent-child relationship is challenging. Parents need to be especially attentive, understanding and supportive at this stage. This article will explain how to deal with the relationship between children and parents during adolescence and provide some advice for parents to help them feel comfortable navigating the challenges of this stage.
Give your child more power to choose and be clear about the bottom line:
During adolescence, children crave more autonomy, which is a sign of their independent growth. Parents need to delegate authority, clearly inform their children of the bottom lines that cannot be negotiated, and explain the issues of principle in a reasonable way. At the same time, it is advisable to make fair and reasonable provisions for rewards and punishments, to reach an agreement with the child, and to decide whether to continue to trust them based on their performance. Doing so will prevent your child from acting out of place and at the same time develop a sense of responsibility.
When arguing, don't be tough with your child:
When parents have an argument with their child, don't go head-to-head with them, because adolescent children are impulsive and reckless. In this case, we can try to change the strong or dominant side first to break the deadlock and resolve the conflict more easily.
Control yourselves and be well
Adolescent children often exhibit strong double standards, wanting both independence and dependence, both separation and intimacy. As a parent, support and listen to your child when they need help or are willing to communicate; At other times, intervention and interruption should be minimized, and the child should be given more space and respite. Avoid focusing too much on the minutiae of your child as you did before, and instead focus on their overall development. At the same time, parents should also put their attention back on themselves, take care of their life and emotional health, and meet the challenges of adolescence with a stable mindset.
I would like to appeal to parents who have not yet reached adolescence to cherish their intimate relationship with their children, as this relationship may face some challenges during adolescence. At the same time, I also wish parents who are going through the difficulties of adolescence can face it with strength and smile through this stage. With proper understanding, care, and companionship, we can work together to resolve the dilemmas in the adolescent parent-child relationship and create a more harmonious family environment.