As the saying goes: it is better to make friends with gentlemen than with villains.
It refers to making friends and looking at character. Character is the passport of life and the greatest capital of life. No matter how well a person usually disguises himself, he will be inadvertently exposed by various details in life. Judging whether a person's character is good or not can be seen from the following things. 
Attitude towards the exThere has always been such a joke in the entertainment industry: the man has Huang Yiqing, and the woman has Ge Huijie. After Huang Yiqing and Huang Yi divorced, they came out from time to time to blow up Huang Yi's material, and blackened his ex-wife Huang Yi. And Ge Huijie is not idle, she comes out every three or five to tear Wang Feng, and she takes pleasure in scolding Wang Feng on Weibo. ridiculed Wang Feng for his fox smell and courtship, and the songs he sang were all vegetable market songs; Zhang Ziyi gave birth to a daughter, Wang Feng became a father again, and she immediately ran to sarcastically "be a daughter again"; Wang Feng sent her daughter to study abroad without telling her, she said that her daughter had a crush on her stepmother; On Valentine's Day, Wang Feng and Zhang Ziyi took the little apple out to play and posted intimate photos, and then she bombarded why she wanted to show her ex-husband and children happy ......There's a good saying:Don't speak ill of your predecessor and don't slander your predecessor, it's the least respect for your past self. Even if the ex is really scumbag, there is no need to say it when you meet someone. For our exes, we have loved each other deeply and hurt each other, with good memories and painful experiences. What can be done now is to be as graceful as possible when turning. Mr. Mu Xin once said: "Good feelings are wisdom and feelings in the end." Since they are exes, there must be disagreements between them. "But a person with a good character must know how to break off friendship with a gentleman and not speak ill of him. And people with bad character are often stalking about the past. If a person is always verbal and verbal about his ex, and his heart is full of negative energy, it will definitely lead to the distance of those around him. Not speaking ill of your predecessor in front of a third person is the most basic cultivation and measure of a person. Not taking emotional matters as a talking point is also a basic respect for yourself and your ex. The interaction between men and women, since there is no reason to stay together, it is easy to get together and disperse. 
Attitude towards the weakI once saw such a story: in the downtown area of the city, there was a well-dressed woman who hurried out of the mall with a bag in her hand. A disabled old man with no lower limbs is kneeling on a small wooden plank and begging. Passers-by dodged away, and soon he crawled up to the woman with the bag in her hands. The woman stopped, trying to get the money, but couldn't spare it. The beggar waved her hand and motioned for her to leave. At this time, I saw the woman squatting down, and passers-by thought that she wanted to reprimand the beggar at close range, but she used her hands and eyes to signal the beggar to dig out the pocket with her own hands. The beggar's dirty hand carefully reached into the woman's pocket and took out a 10 yuan bill from the pocket. After taking out the money, the woman hurried away. At that moment, the woman's actions stunned everyone present. It is not how noble the 10 yuan a woman gives, but the woman's squatting, which shows the nobility of her character. As the old saying goes: knowing the face of a person does not know the heart, and it is difficult to draw the skin of a tiger and the bones. People are very good at disguise, and some people behave very well in front of acquaintances, but when they face weak people, they often have a sense of superiority, so that their true nature is unintentionally exposed. As the saying goes: "People like to look down, look up, indifferent and despise, but it is difficult to look at them levelly." "Actually, it is not difficult to achieve eye level, you just need to respect the height of everyone, including the height of the beggar. A person's attitude towards the weak reflects his true character. 
Attitude towards his wifeThere is a question on Zhihu:What are the characteristics of a man with a bad character? One of the respondents told about the experience of the class reunion: when he went to the class reunion, there was a classmate in a suit and leather shoes, polite and elegant, and he looked like an elite. Many of his classmates had a very good impression of him and had a good conversation with him. But halfway through he picked up a **, his face changed instantly, his tone was irritable, and he hung up impatiently without saying a few words. Someone asked him what was going on, and he said lightly that his wife had called. Later, he complained that his wife had no job and was a housewife, and his tone was full of contempt. The classmates who had a good conversation with him were embarrassed. After the meeting, the respondent stayed away from the classmate, because he thought that a person who was like this to his wife would not have a good character. Obviously, you can be gentle with others, and if you say you dislike the people closest to you, you will dislike them, and marrying such a man is the most devastating torture. You know, it's not easy for a woman, to be pregnant for ten months, to experience the pain of childbirth, and to take care of the family day and night, a woman has paid a lot. is not good to his wife, in essence, he is a person who does not know how to be grateful and does not know how to give. This kind of person can be ruthless to his wife, and how sincere is he to others? A man who doesn't even care about his wife is selfish in his bones. And really good men know how to be considerate and respect their wives. Every happy woman's face is full of respect and pampering from her husband. Only a man who is good to his wife can win the respect of others. A man's truest character is hidden in the details of his treatment of his wife! Bai Yansong said: "Character is the highest degree, and the unity of virtue and talent is the real wisdom and real talent." "Character is always a person's best hole card and most valuable wealth. People with good character bring their own light, no matter where they go, they will always shine. Life is short, we must choose to associate with people with good character, and life will be better.