Talking about "sex" with your child Do you dare to take the call?
Have you ever been because of a child's sudden sentence "I'm from **?" "And the heart is beating fast and the face is red? Don't be in a hurry to deny it, this is a "sexual" topic challenge that almost every parent encounters. Statistics show that more than 80% of parents feel at a loss when faced with their children's sex education for the first time. Are you one of them?
Imagine this scene: your child, with those clear, innocent eyes staring at you, waiting for an answer about the origin of life. And you, as if your throat is blocked by something, can't spit out half a word. Does this embarrassment and powerlessness make you want to find a crack in the ground to get into?
Don't worry, you're not fighting alone. In fact, talking about "sex" with children does not require you to be an expert in biology. The key is how to grasp the scale and how to communicate in a way that children can understand. And all this is inseparable from an in-depth understanding of children's psychology.
Do you know? At the age of 3-5 years, children begin to be curious about their bodies and gender. This is a natural stage of their cognitive development, not some kind of flood beast. So, when the child asks you, "Why is my body different from that of Xiao Ming?" You don't need to panic, and you don't need to shy away from talking about it.
So, how do you deal with it smartly? Here are a few psychological tips that may help you resolve the embarrassment and be honest with your child.
The first trick: use the story to open the topic. You can make up a simple story, such as "Each child is a gift from an angel to mom and dad, and the angel will dress each child in a different dress before giving the gift." Some of the clothes are blue, representing little boys; Some of the clothes are pink, which represents little girls. That's why our bodies look different. ”
The second trick: use picture books or animations. There are many child-friendly sex education picture books and animations on the market, which introduce the origin of life and gender differences in a lively and interesting way. You can read or ** with your child and then discuss the content.
The third trick: ask the child rhetorically. When your child asks a sexual question, you can try to guide them to think with rhetorical questions. For example: "What do you think?" Why do you think that? "This can not only understand the child's thoughts, but also stimulate their ** desire.
Sex education is not a one-time conversation, but an ongoing process. You'll need to adapt your child's strategy as they grow to satisfy their ever-changing curiosity. And most importantly, be open and accepting and let your child know that they can come to you for help no matter what questions or confusion they have.
Now, do you still think it's a scary thing to talk about "sex" with your children? In fact, as long as you master the right methods and attitudes, this can not only become an opportunity for you to communicate with your parents, but also help your child establish a healthy and confident sexual concept. So, be brave and take it! Your child is waiting for your answer!