Last night, my husband, my son, my mother-in-law, my niece, my daughter-in-law, and my son-in-law, all of us, went out to eat together; For a banquet for the newlyweds.
During the banquet, I vaguely heard my niece and daughter say to her mother-in-law, "Don't keep pointing at other people." "My niece and grandmother sat together, and we sat across from each other. I looked at me suspiciously, and my niece smiled and explained, "My grandmother always points to others." The mother-in-law smiled a little shyly, and there was a look of disapproval. I thought it was a small wave between the two of them, so I didn't say much and laughed it off.
After breakfast today, when I was washing the dishes, my mother-in-law came to me as if she suddenly remembered something, and said, "Tell me, yesterday in the restaurant, I saw a woman, what was she wearing?" A pair of pants! Ten winters and moons, what is she wearing! It's okay to be long, it's so short, with your thighs exposed and your flesh exposed, isn't it cold? Ten winter wax moon day drops, many do not fit the shake ......"Shake the face, is the colloquial language in our hometown, which has the meaning of "out of place, not pleasing to the eye").
In a short moment, it dawned on me that it was no wonder that my niece's daughter blamed her grandmother. It turned out that her old man pointed at other little girls in public.
I hurriedly said, "People don't show their flesh, they are wearing warm clothes." It's the kind of **-colored cotton pants, which are the same color as the legs. For the sake of good looks. Then, I added, "Your niece's cotton pants are also of that color, but her skirt is long, and you didn't pay attention." You're going to lift her skirt, and it's like she's showing your flesh. ”
I tried to tell her that she understood, but she was as stubborn as her mother-in-law and couldn't listen at all, "Oh, who knows." Still took the words in front of her and said, "What is the name of what you wear, how incompatible with the shaking phase, how incompatible with the shaking phase is the tenth winter wax moon and the sky drops, how incompatible with the shaking phase......”
She can't get used to the young man's dress, and she can't understand it. I simply won't say anything. The mother-in-law was still muttering vigorously, announcing her position. She has her old and ingrained thoughts.
This is what we often call the generation gap. As an intermediary, let me be fair, the elderly are not used to the fashion of young people, and young people still can't look down on the rustic spirit of the elderly! Speaking of which, among the three generations of the old, middle and young, there is too much time and age span. Therefore, there is no such thing as right or wrong.
However, my mother-in-law is really old, and in life, many concepts and opinions are far away and deviated from us. Even, in front of the grandchildren, it is a little out of place.
Suddenly, I realized that I had to be tolerant of my parents and the elderly.
Children have this experience, and many times, the requirements and expectations of parents are incredible and helpless. Especially the old fathers and mothers, they will be coquettish and tricky like children, making you cry and laugh; And those parents who are not so old like to show their authority as a father and mother, which puts you in a dilemma.
The reason why it is necessary to be inclusive is precisely to show that parents are not always right; And when we would rather accept our parents' faults than listen to them and obey them, this is inclusive love.
Paul says in Ephesians, "It is only natural that children, obey your parents in the Lord." Honor your father and mother, that you may be blessed and live a long life. This is the first commandment with a promise.
There's a word in that, and rightfully so. It is to make you not try to justify yourself and find reasons for obeying your parents. In any case, it is natural and unquestionable for children to obey their parents. This is the filial piety of the Lord. At first glance, it is unfair to the children; This is not the case. Because justice to your children is at the back, and that is a promise to you. What you are missing, or rather, your grievances, God will make up for you: to make you blessed and live a long life on earth.
That is, with God, honoring one's parents is a command. In real life, in people themselves, honoring their parents is mostly based on their conscience. Some people say that it is human nature to love children and love parents. All of these are worth reflecting on.
But no matter what, we love our parents.
For children, we talk about respect; And for parents, we need to be tolerant. It's all love, it's all self-denial. It is because of the self-denial that this love is great.