Every emotion is like a slowly flowing river, it may have been magnificent or calm as water, but there will always be a moment when it will quietly dry up, leaving only a riverbed of memories.
We often look back and realize that the original love is gone, and those subtle changes have quietly crossed our hearts, but they have not attracted enough attention.
When love comes to an end, there are several common feelings, hoping that in the future journey, we can be more vigilant to recognize these signals, maybe we can have a chance to redeem, or at least, reduce regrets.
1 No more quarrelling, only silence
What husband and wife are most afraid of is that the two will start arguing as soon as they disagree, but what is even more terrifying is that neither of them is too lazy to quarrel.
Quarrels can bring pain and tearing, but they can also bring some understanding and intimacy after a conflict.
The argument shows that both parties still care and are willing to invest emotion and energy into the relationship, try to solve problems, and seek consensus.
But when these intense emotional exchanges cease to exist and are replaced by gloomy silence and mutual neglect, this silence is not peace, but the bleakest goodbye of love.
This silence means that both parties have given up trying to understand and adapt, and the love in their hearts has been replaced by disappointment and exhaustion.
Even though the two were not physically separated, their minds were already separated, and the rift between them grew wider and wider until it could not be repaired.
Behind the silence is the fact that the other person no longer occupies a place in your future, a silent acknowledgment that the relationship can no longer bring happiness and satisfaction.
2 It is like a stranger, only alienation
What was once a deep love has now turned into a stranger alienation, which is one of the most heart-wrenching changes in love.
In the past, the two people were inseparable, sharing every small slice of life, but now the communication between them is only necessary to greet each other.
This sense of alienation doesn't happen overnight, but accumulates inadvertently and gradually due to a lack of communication, understanding, and inclusion.
In this process, both parties feel that the other is changing, but rarely reflect on whether they are also responsible.
As time passed, the hearts of the two became more and more distant, until one day, they found that they could no longer find the intimacy they once had.
Such a sense of alienation is like an invisible wall, separating the two tightly.
On either side of this wall, they may still live under the same roof, but they are like people from two completely different worlds.
3. I just want the end, no longer planning for the future
Love you, so the future has you, so plan your future together.
From the initial vision to the gradual concretization of the plan, every step is filled with anticipation for the future and cherishing each other.
The saddest thing in love is that you are planning how to make life better for two people, and he is planning to leave.
One day, you find that his plans for the future are without you, and your position in the other person's heart has changed radically.
This change is often the most difficult to reverse.
A person who wants to leave can't be kept, even if he barely stays with you, after all, he is not the one who wants to spend his life with you at the beginning.
Every love has its life cycle, some are as long as a star, and some are as short as a shooting star.
Regardless of the outcome, the important thing is that we have loved bravely and tried sincerely.
And when love is no longer there, we can also let go in a chic way and welcome a new journey with gratitude for the past.