Men are never backwards compatible.
When a man chooses a mate, he will give priority to Bai Fumei, who has a good family background and is powerful, if they can't reach this kind of girl, they will be compatible with the girl's age, appearance, personality, emotional intelligence, and IQ.
All the long-term relationships that can be achieved are those that he himself thinks are profitable.
But a man's choice of mistress is not a mate, he does not require a mistress's family background, nor does he need a mistress to be excellent, all a cheating man needs is that the mistress is obedient, willing to be a mistress, and will not cause trouble for him, which is why many mistresses are not as good as their wives, and cheating men also have to cheat with her.
Before, an original partner came to Lan Fang for help, and the junior she met was not as good as her.
This original partner is a rich second generation, the family is doing construction, there is an elder brother, but he settled abroad, will not share property with her, after she graduated from college, she entered the family company, her parents also cultivated her, she has good economic conditions, better than her husband's, her husband also chased her for a long time.
Her husband is not a phoenix man, his family is in a second-tier city, and his parents are both high school teachers.
Her husband graduated from graduate school and worked in a Fortune 500 company, and he also has development prospects.
I had a girlfriend who started in college and had been talking for more than five years.
After meeting the original partner, he began to have conflicts with his girlfriend, and pursued the original partner after the breakup.
This original partner said that she didn't have a good impression of cheating men at first, and when she met a cheating man, he had a girlfriend, and she couldn't do three, and her husband was not the type she liked, and she pursued it for a long time.
She felt that this man was sincere, and he was very kind to her, and he touched her.
Plus the conditions are not bad, her parents also agreed, and the two got married after more than a year of love.
When she got married, the marriage house was the down payment from the man's family, and her family married a million-dollar car.
The two of them are not short of money, they find a nanny to do housework and the like, they don't live with the two elderly people, and their parents don't intervene much in their lives, so they live happily.
But unexpectedly, her husband cheated, and the junior was an intern in her husband's company.
found out that her husband was cheating, and his wife must know about the mistress.
The main understanding is that compared with the junior, who is better in the end.
The junior is young and beautiful, but the wives are more financially powerful.
The wives feel that they are stronger than the mistress, so they feel that the extramarital affair should be easily resolved.
But the cheating man refused to break up with the mistress and kept the affair all the time.
Why does a cheating man cheat on a mistress who is not as good as his wife?
Because men are not choosing a mate, they are looking for a lover
They don't need their lovers to be good, because if they don't get married, they won't become a community of interests.
The fact that the junior is not good enough does not affect the life of the cheating man, and the cheating man does not care whether the junior is excellent or not.
What the cheating man wants is that the mistress likes him, treats him well, and satisfies some of his needs.
For example, emotional needs, the junior loves to cheat on the man, and the man loves to die or live, but the wife will not.
Another example is physical needs, when wives are pregnant, men are the most likely to cheat.
When a man cheats on the mistress, he only needs the mistress to be liked by him in a certain aspect, and he doesn't look at the conditions at all.
So how to separate this kind of junior who is not as good as his wife?
Wives are all about being firm and letting cheating men make choices between marriage and extramarital affairs.
Don't ruin the relationship between the cheating man and the mistress, the wife doesn't need to use these means at all, be simple and rude.
You want to divorce a cheating man and tell the cheating man that there is only one end for him to continue the affair is divorce.
Don't just say it and don't act, wives should take action.
Let the cheating man believe that his wife really wants a divorce, and you can see how the cheating man chooses.
The man does not agree to the divorce, and the wives sue directly, and they do not accept the mediation.
It's really time to go to court, and when the cheating man finds that he has to lose a lot, whether it is a love brain or a brain madness, he can be cured by the interest relationship.
After the cheating man weighs the pros and cons, he makes a choice.
If they want to continue their marriage, they will go back and beg for a divorce.
If the cheating man can beg for a divorce, the wife should not force the cheating man to separate the mistress.
If you don't get divorced, you have to negotiate good terms and leave a good way out for yourself.
In the end, Lan Fang wanted to say that wives live with edges and corners, and they will never give in when they should have edges.
In this way, it is easier to be respected and to be happy.
Compared to tolerating a man's cheating, you can solve it, but you don't deal with it.
The wives deal with it neatly and mercilessly towards the cheating man, making him pay the price he deserves, but he is more able to restrain the cheating man, because he is afraid of you, he will not dare to offend you.
A wife is more valuable than a junior, this is your advantage, you have to be good at using it.
Instead of comparing with the mistress, she is not as good as yours to speculate on the intentions of the cheating man.
What kind of psychology can a cheating man have? It's nothing more than greed.
What wives have to do is to make cheating men dare not be greedy anymore.
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