In our lives, we often meet all kinds of people. Some people are very honest and not good at words; Some people are good at using their minds and handling interpersonal relationships with ease. However, if a person wants to gain a foothold in society, he cannot rely only on simple honesty or scheming. We need to find a balance between the two in order to better cope with life's challenges.
1. Don't be a good person, you must learn to refuse.
A good person is a character trait that is characterized by being easy-going, kind, and not knowing how to reject others. However, in real life, if we are always good old people, we will often feel tired and dissatisfied. Therefore, we should learn to refuse, be clear about our bottom line and principles, and don't let others infringe on our rights and interests at will.
2. Don't trust others easily, learn to doubt.
Being scheming means that we must maintain a certain degree of vigilance and not trust others easily. In interpersonal interactions, some people deliberately deceive us or take advantage of our weaknesses and are vulnerable if we are not vigilant enough. Therefore, we need to learn to be suspicious and carefully distinguish between those who can be trusted and who are potentially dangerous.
3. Don't complain about fate, learn to adapt.
There will always be some unsatisfactory things in life, and some people will complain about the unfairness of fate and have a sad face all day long. Doing so will not only fail to change the status quo, but it will also lead you into deeper negative emotions. Therefore, we need to learn to adapt to the environment and face the challenges and difficulties in life positively. By constantly working hard and adapting, we can better control our destiny.
Fourth, do not give up the pursuit of dreams, we must learn to persevere.
Dreams are the source of power in life, and only by constantly pursuing dreams can we continue to grow and progress. However, there will always be difficulties and challenges in the process of pursuing their dreams, and some people will give up because of this. Therefore, we must learn to persevere, face difficulties and challenges bravely, and constantly strive to pursue our dreams. Only with perseverance can we finally achieve our dreams.
5. Don't say hurtful things, learn to speak.
Speaking is an art, and how we speak has a direct impact on our relationships and social interactions. Some people will say hurtful things out of impulse or inappropriate words, which will not only hurt other people's feelings, but also ruin relationships. Therefore, we must learn the art of speaking, pay attention to the wording and tone of words, and try to communicate in a peaceful and friendly way. Through good verbal expression, we are able to get along with people better and build better interpersonal relationships.
Sixth, do not pursue perfection, learn to accept imperfection.
The pursuit of perfection is a beautiful desire, but excessive pursuit of perfection can lead us to demand too much from ourselves and others, which can cause unnecessary stress and disappointment. There are no perfect people and things in life, and accepting imperfection is also a sign of maturity. We must learn to accept our own imperfections and the shortcomings of others, and not to expect too much from ourselves or to expect perfection from others. By accepting imperfections, we are better able to release our stress and emotions and face life more easily.
In short, life is not easy, society is complicated, if you are too honest, if you have no scheming, you will be easy to suffer losses and be bullied, it is easy to live a nest, and it is inevitable to take many detours. Therefore, we emphasize that you can't be too honest and scheming, and based on this, we have published the sharing of this article, and then recommend the two related good books of "Being a Man Can't Be Too Honest" and "Being a Man with Scheming and Doing Things with Skill" to everyone.
To be a human being is to stick to your principles and bottom line, and to maintain integrity and kindness. However, in a complex and ever-changing social environment, it is difficult to gain a foothold by relying only on honesty. Therefore, I recommend everyone to read the book "You Can't Be Too Honest". This book is not to make everyone dishonest, but to let everyone learn to be flexible and avoid being hurt by being too simple while sticking to their principles.
In addition, if you want to succeed in this society, you can't just be honest. We also need to learn how to plan with our hearts and execute with our wrists. Therefore, I would also like to recommend the book "Be a man with scheming and do things with skill". This book will teach you how to use your scheming and skills to increase your impact, gain more opportunities and resources, and better achieve your goals.
All in all, both books are well worth reading. They will help everyone better cope with the complex social environment and improve their ability and competitiveness. However, remember that no matter how you behave or do things, you should pay attention to the use of scheming and skill on the premise of sticking to your principles. At the same time, we should also maintain a kind heart and not lose the foundation of being a human being. In this way, we can go further and more steadily on the road of life.