In this fast-paced society, divorce is nothing new. Some people want to find true happiness again after a divorce. But the question is, even if it doesn't work the first time, shouldn't it be smooth sailing the second time?
It has been said that a failed marriage lays the foundation for a happy marriage. Yes, failed marriages can help us grow and better understand what we want. However, it would be naïve to think that remarriage will make you happy. Marriage is not child's play, nor is it a panacea.
In fact, there are just as many problems facing a second marriage as there is a first. First of all, they both have sad pasts and may not trust each other. You'll also have to deal with ex-lovers, child issues, and how to divide assets. These conflicts are more common than they were at first. Forming a new family requires more complex family relationships and requires greater wisdom and tolerance.
For example, Zhang and Li have been married for many years and have a son. Since we both work out of town and are not in the same place, we can only see each other on weekends. Although Li has a stable job, she feels that Zhang has changed too much after falling in love, and she panicked when she saw that there were too many loving couples around her.
Mr. Li sometimes gets sick, but Mr. Zhang just talks about it and doesn't really care. Mr. Li began to feel that Mr. Zhang didn't care about him, and the two kept quarreling, and Mr. Li felt that it was not okay to go on like this, and insisted on divorcing Mr. Zhang. Mr. Zhang disagreed, but Mr. Li insisted on the divorce. But she regretted that she did not live a good life after remarrying, and kept inquiring about Mr. Zhang's whereabouts.
She remarried and became someone else's stepmother. Her husband does not trust her and is always on his toes. The children of her current husband always cause her problems and make her life unpleasant. Moreover, my current mother-in-law doesn't want to see me. I've never had such a big conflict with my ex-husband's family. Yes, her stepfather took care of her in every way. 。
The failure of the first marriage is usually caused by many conflicts in personality, values, lifestyle, etc. If these issues are not resolved, they tend to recur even after remarriage.
In addition, when a person remarries, the shadow of the previous marriage often remains, thus affecting the relationship between husband and wife. Remarried couples have to deal with more complex relationships, especially ex-spouses, property, and children, which can make remarriage more difficult.
In addition, the psychological expectations of both sides are more complex. Remarriage may give us new hope, but it doesn't mean we're necessarily happy. Failure the first time does not mean inevitable failure the second. 。The important thing is whether both parties can really solve the reasons that led to the breakdown of the previous marriage, and a truly happy marriage can only be achieved if they truly understand and recognize each other and move towards happiness together.
As the famous saying goes, "True happiness comes from managing your next marriage with your heart, not simply hoping for it." ”
If you want a happy married life, don't run away from reality, find it in marriage. The problem is not that you think you've met the wrong person in this marriage. In fact, no matter who you marry, you'll regret it. As the saying goes, "if you're alone," "marriage itself is wrong." "Yes, no matter who you marry, you will encounter all kinds of contradictions, and you will only face problems if you collide slowly. Together.
If your first marriage didn't go well, then your second marriage probably won't work out as well. You need to solve the problems in the previous marriage to avoid the same problems in the next marriage. As long as the problem is solved, there is no problem in getting married, even if it is a problem. Whether it's a first or second marriage, your marriage will be happy. But we must value marriage. First marriages are comparatively better at solving problems. Remarriage can complicate the relationship. Therefore, we must cherish our marriage and avoid problems encountered in our marriage.