Chapter 117 is a personal original.
Thanksgiving, welcome**.
I was originally going to update it yesterday, but I didn't find the topic I wanted to write about after a few hours of waiting, so I didn't change it in the end.
At this time, the "perfectionism" factor in the body came out again. They always feel that since they say that they must update, they must update, otherwise they will not be able to complete the plan and will leave a gap. But in fact, it's not a big deal at all, and it's nothing if you don't update it for a day, especially compared to my previous update speed, not to mention that in terms of quantity, this is already the week with the most updates in a long time.
But another voice in the body didn't think so. It believes that what is said must be done, even if it is not said explicitly, but it should be done if it is thought so in the heart, otherwise it is a broken promise, and the evaluation of self-behavior by the inner judgment system must be lowered. In this way, with the development of behavior and cognition, I felt that the neural circuits in my brain that were responsible for "mental internal friction" began to light up again and operate on their own.
At this time, I realized once again why so many people who could have accomplished something ended up with nothing, perhaps because they had been led to the endless abyss of spiritual internal friction by the "perfectionist" mentality before they acted. The little desire and mental energy to do things is all spent on self-internal friction. So in the end, something new that should have appeared did not appear, and the status quo that should have changed did not change.
At this time, I suddenly realized that the often said "sometimes people's biggest enemy is themselves" is not an empty phrase without reason.
Take writing, for example. Almost every teacher who teaches writing has told their students a mantra about writing: finish first, then perfect. Even if you know that what you write is a piece of, don't worry about it until you finish it. Because everyone who has come before knows that if there is no as a foundation, no matter how delicate and bright flowers will not grow in the future, the perfectionist mentality will have long ago strangled it in the embryonic stage.
I'm also reminded of an interview with a film director I once watched. He said that as long as the finished film is handed in, then he will always be able to see the shortcomings in his works and there will always be room for improvement. If you keep this mentality, the movie will never meet the audience, so people say that "film is the art of regret".
From the moment the film was born, there has never been a perfect work in this world, and it will never be. So if directors have the mentality of making a perfect work, then we will never see any film and television works again.
Corresponding to this is another mentality: to do the best within the scope of ability, which is what we often call "do your best". As long as it is something that we choose on our own initiative, we will do our best in whatever we do, and strive to do the best within our ability, so that in the end, we can accept any kind of result calmly.
I knew there was a better possibility, but that's all I could do at this point, so whatever the outcome was I'd accept with ease. "No regrets, no regrets, no unrealistic illusions about "perfectionism", surrendering to all the arrangements of fate with peace of mind.
It's like completing all the questions that you can do in the exam, and you don't accidentally lose points where you should have scored, and you don't have empty answers to the questions that are out of your circle of ability. It's a kind of calmness after doing your best, so it can be extremely easy to face any outcome.
Do your best to be at ease with what happens, instead of demanding perfection in this already imperfect world and not taking a single step in the end. That's the best attitude to do anything.
As I Hear, "Perfection is an excellent enemy. There's nothing wrong with striving for excellence, but being demanding of perfection can lead to trouble, draining energy, and wasting time. The key is to find the right balance.
Voltaire.