The four sons of the Jin family seem to carry the high hopes of the family, but they each go astray in different ways. The eldest is greedy for pleasure, the second is timid and fearful, the third is mediocre, and the seventh is a gentleman who does not learn and has no skills. Why is it that none of the children raised by such a prominent family can become great?
It may have something to do with their father. The father is perfect in the eyes of the world, but the children seem to be deeply influenced by it, each with its own flaws. This may be because their father is "too successful", which makes the children lose the opportunity to grow.
The young masters of the Jin family have fathers who can make money, and naturally there are sons who can spend money. They rely on private cars for daily travel, and when they arrive at their own silk and satin houses and foreign banks, they keep accounts on credit, and then they will be reimbursed by the account office when they turn back.
At the end of the year, when the accounts are settled, everyone's expenses are clear. Most of the ladies and ladies spend more than 100 yuan, but the accounts of the four young masters all start at 1,000, and the older they are, the more they will have a deficit.
These young masters have already served in the ** department, with a good salary every month, and Yanxi also has a large amount of pocket money. At that time, this money was enough for an average family to cover for a year. However, the young masters of the Jin family still made a huge deficit after spending extravagantly.
Is their money spent on **? Of course, it's all used on women. Three young masters who already have wives are raising children outside.
3. Bao Xiezi; The fourth young master, who has not yet married a wife, is desperately chasing this and that.
In front of outsiders, they have to put on a grand appearance: entertaining, going to the theater, buying gifts, visiting the dance hall. It's all about their status, but the real achievements are not visible. The lives of these young people seem to be completely immersed in the glitz and glamour, and behind their luxurious lives, money has become indispensable support. Where does the money come from these rich kids? Although the three young masters of the Jin family work in the ** department, their salaries are obviously a drop in the bucket for the expenses of supporting the entire family. The Jin family's ability to maintain its huge expenses, and the fact that these young masters were able to live such a luxurious life, were all due to their father, Jin Quan, as prime minister.
Jin Quan was a very capable politician, he served as prime minister in the cabinet of the Beiyang warlords, second only to the head of state. His power and status made the young masters of the Jin family the object of everyone's pursuit. Whether at work or in social situations, they enjoy privileges and privileges that others can't match. These young masters never realized that all the privileges and superiority they possessed were inferior to their father's status and power.
Although they had the money and status that others coveted, the young masters of the Jin family did not cherish it. They take it all for granted, so they squander and trample on money and status at will. Jin Quan was also very disappointed and angry about this, but he finally chose to compromise because he loved his sons so much. As the head of the family, Jin Quan does have extraordinary abilities. However, when it comes to dealing with family issues, he seems hesitant and soft-hearted. He understood the problems of his eldest son, Fengju, and knew that he needed to be taught a lesson to correct his behavior. However, he couldn't make up his mind to get Feng Ju to resign, so he just let him go to Shanghai to hone his skills. This kind of handling is obviously too lenient, and it does not form enough warning for Feng Ju, let alone a warning effect on other sons.
Jin Quan's own behavior also laid a hidden danger for the family's depravity. He grew up in the feudal era and was deeply influenced by feudal culture, not only marrying a wife, but also taking two concubines. Among them, Aunt Cui is his favorite one, and he is extremely fascinated by her jade-like arms and slender waist. This greed for beauty undoubtedly sets a bad example for children.
After Feng Ju married Wan Xiang, although Jin Quan got angry and scolded him many times, his behavior was not corrected. He is unable to restrain his pursuit of beauty, and this behavior directly affects the children's values. As Aunt Cui said: "You only allow the governor to set fires, and you don't allow the people to light lamps." ”
Jin Quan understands the importance of teaching by example over words, but his actions are contrary to this principle. While teaching his children to be single-minded, he himself is blatantly greedy for beauty. This kind of education leads to the moral decay of a group of children.
In fact, many parents understand the importance of teaching by example, but very few can actually do it. Jin Quan's story is a cautionary tale that parents' actions have a profound impact on their children's development. If parents fail to lead by example, then the moral education of their children will be seriously affected. During the times, many seemed to fall into a fixed pattern when it came to education: wealthy families often struggled to extend their wealth to the second generation. And the reasons for this phenomenon are always strikingly similar, and there is usually a stern father and a loving mother in these stories. In Chinese feudal families, parents usually have a clear division of labor, one sings red face and the other sings white face, thinking that this will better educate their children. However, it turns out that this approach may not be correct.
No amount of material wealth a father gives his children can replace the desire for fatherly love in their hearts. And the mother's excessive doting may make the child gradually lose the bottom line in the process of growing up. Long Yingtai once said: "The fate of parents and children is to look at the back of their children and drift away." "Giving too much love and protection to children at a young age can put them under a lot of stress as they grow up.
Therefore, in order for children to grow up better, parents should learn to let go at the right time and give them the necessary support and encouragement. In this way, children can go further on the road of life.