My sister-in-law and cousin have been married for almost two years, and today is the first time she has revealed her heart to me, saying that she regrets accepting a 100,000 bride price from her uncle's family.
My cousin is also a member of the late marriage team, in his thirties, and he only started a family last year.
He and my sister-in-law were college classmates, and the two of them fell in love from school uniforms to graduation and found a job.
From school uniforms to wedding dresses is their ideal and wish for love.
Originally, a harmonious relationship should have entered the marriage hall a long time ago, but my cousin has been putting this matter on hold because of lack of money.
My cousin's family is also an ordinary rural family, and my uncle and aunt are also authentic farmers. The family has no regular economic income, plus for my cousin's education over the years, and there are still some foreign debts outside.
Although my cousin also got a job after graduation, the money owed outside was almost repaid one after another. But economic conditions have not improved significantly in nature.
It's also that the past two years have been so old that people are anxious, and both families are urging them to be anxious. The two of them discussed marriage.
But when they got married, they also had a dispute over the bride price. My sister-in-law is a knowledgeable person, and she has a good relationship with her cousin, so she doesn't have any requirements for the bride price, and her attitude is to give a little symbolically. After all, in the days after she got married, she still wanted to fight with my cousin.
But her mother's family disagreed, and she had to say that it was not easy to raise a daughter, and she couldn't give it to others for nothing. According to her mother's family, it costs 188,000, which is nice and auspicious.
But my cousin's family really couldn't come up with that much money, and after several discussions, my cousin's family agreed to reduce the bride price to 100,000.
In this way, there are many good things, and the two of them finally achieve positive results.
But tonight, my sister-in-law suddenly came to me to confide in the troubles she had been hiding in her heart.
It turned out that when they got married, my cousin gave a bride price of 100,000 yuan according to the wishes of my sister-in-law's family, but my sister-in-law's family did not return a penny.
The 100,000 bride price given by my cousin at the beginning was still the compensation given by my uncle for going out to do odd jobs and being seriously injured at the construction site.
After they got married, their aunt has been needing ** because of lung disease, and seeing a doctor has always been a big expense. Life at home is tense and tight.
My aunt had never read a book, and from time to time she talked about it, which always made my sister-in-law feel ashamed. I feel guilty all the time in my heart for asking for a bride price. Leads to extreme mental depression.
Although my cousin didn't say a word about it, the more this happened, the more depressed my sister-in-law felt, and even sometimes hid and secretly cried alone.
I really don't know how to comfort her after I know this, but I just say that the days are gentle and long, and there will always be a bright day.
Regarding the matter of asking for a bride price, there are mixed reviews on the Internet, and even some places have issued sky-high bride prices, causing the relevant departments to take action to rectify this unhealthy trend.
I don't know what everyone thinks about the bride price?