Only when you have enough to speak can you understand better".The speaker has no intention, but the listener has the intention
People don't need too many words to communicate with each other, sometimes a smile and a look are enough to convey emotion.
Moreover, it is easy to make mistakes when talking too much, and it may also cause unnecessary misunderstandings.
As the saying goes: "Sickness enters from the mouth, and disaster comes from the mouth." ”
In today's society, people are unpredictableIf you do what you want and speak freely, you are likely to get into trouble
An unintentional word may touch the other party's scales; If you are quick to speak for a while, you may damage your image.
01 Talk less about your income and savings
People who love you don't care how much money you make, how much benefit you bring him, and how much use value you have.
Whether it's a straightforward personality or a penchant for showing off, there are always people who like to reveal their savings while chatting.
If you also have this habit, then I suggest you really talk less or not in the future.
Wealth is not exposed, and you are not alone.
When you're doing well, the jealousy of others is a soft knife to kill.
Walk outside, whether it's family and friends, or strangersDon't expose your money and income easily
Just like there was no electronic money before, the worst thing about telling someone how much money you have in deposit is that it is easy to provoke thieves.
When you say that you earn less, maybe people pity you on the surface, but secretly feel that you are incompetent.
So about income deposits,If you say low, people look down on you, and if you say high, they think you show off, not inside and out
Money is already very sensitive, and there have been countless people throughout the ages who were originally harmonious and angry, but in the end they were full of contradictions because of money.
02 Don't talk about your own honor
Don't put too much emphasis on honor, only when you can't find happiness in what you have, do you look to the praise of others;
And that can easily put you in a dangerous situation.
Mention your glory in front of othersIt can make people think that you are showing off yourself and making fun of others
Let others have the idea that they are not on the same path as you, and then gradually move away from you.
The sky is self-exalted, the earth is self-sufficient, people are self-sufficient, and water is self-effaceted.
Yishu said: "A person who is truly rich in his heart never shows off everything he has, he does not tell others what books he has read, what cars he has driven, where he has been, how many clothes he has, what jewelry he has bought, because he has no inferiority complex." ”
The fuller the ear, the lower the head; And the more hollow the weeds, the higher the head
03 Talk less about your suffering
If you are always telling others about the hardships you are facing, you will give them the impression that they are not getting along.
No one wants to know about your past, your misfortunes, your inner turmoil
Jane Austen said in "Sense and Sensibility":
Don't expect too much from others, after all, no one is anyone's own.
No one can put yourself in your shoes, your mood, or the predicament you are facing;
There is no such thing as true empathyAnd if you talk too much misfortune and suffering, it will only make people think that you are "Xianglin's sister-in-law".
And in case the person you confide in is not a good person you can trust, you also need to face more people who are emotionally evaluating and consuming your pain.
Your story will thus become someone else's after-dinner story, a classic case in other people's mouths.
The most important thing is that when you tell others about your suffering, you can only get a sigh or two of greetings at most;
The final result is still to be borne by yourselfThe negative emotions brought about by the incident itself are still thereand will not make any difference. Author: Yan Jiu, 99 years of Dachang naked resignation in the text, working life, healthy life, make money and save money, pay attention to me, grow together!
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