Xiao Ming, a white-collar worker in his thirties, had just finished a busy day at work and sat alone on the balcony of his apartment, looking at the brightly lit city skyline in the distance, and a trace of mixed emotions welled up in his heart.
He remembered the dispute with his wife Xiaofang just now. Xiaofang complains that he always comes home late and is so workaholic that he neglects his family.
And he defended himself, saying that he paid overtime to make his family life better.
This is not the first time they have been argued over this.
Xiao Ming knew that Xiao Fang's inner uneasiness came from her upbringing. Xiaofang's parents are divorced, and she has always longed for a complete home.
When the quarrel ended and Xiao Ming was silent, he couldn't help but wonder if he should also reflect on some questions when he blamed Xiao Fang's original family.
First, how long can the impact of parental divorce on children's psychology last?How can I use love to resolve her inner insecurity?
Xiaofang's parents divorced when she was a teenager, which undoubtedly left a scar in her heart.
Daughters need their father's care and a complete home. Xiao Ming understands Xiao Fang's psychological needs.
However, when a person reaches his thirties, should he still define himself by his family of origin?
Is it possible to deal with this fact more positively and maturely?
Xiao Ming realizes that he needs to help Xiao Fang come out of the shadows with more love and understanding, rather than simply blaming her upbringing.
Relationships require two people to work together to resolve problems, not just blame each other.
Second, as a husband, have I done my best to be considerate and caring for my wife?
Although Xiao Fang's family of origin does have an influence on her, Xiao Ming also realizes that as a husband, does he provide enough care and companionship to help Xiao Fang build a sense of security?
He remembered that he was always busy with work, and he was exhausted when he came home, and he rarely had time to communicate warmly with Xiaofang. Xiaofang waited alone at home, and the insecurity in her heart would undoubtedly intensify.
If he could spend more time with his family and let Xiaofang feel his care, maybe Xiaofang would be less sensitive and resentful.
The root of the problem is not all in Xiaofang alone.
Third, how can we create a warm home together?
Xiao Ming understands that the problems in getting along should not be blamed on either party, but need to work together.
If home becomes a reassuring haven, Xiaofang's inner anxiety will be alleviated.
He decided to communicate well with Xiaofang and understand her psychological needs.
He will also try to spend more time with his family. At the same time, he will encourage Xiaofang to learn to face her upbringing positively and deal with psychological trauma maturely.
He believes that as long as the two work together to resolve conflicts with love and understanding, they will be able to create a warm home where each other feels comfortable.
By the time Xiao Ming sorted out his thoughts, it was already late.
He decided to go back to the bedroom first to see if Xiao Fang was already asleep.
Pushing open the door, he saw Xiao Fang curled up on the side of the bed, her face glowing with melancholy in the moonlight.
Xiao Ming lay down lightly, Xiao Fang felt the movement and opened her eyes slightly.
I'm sorry, it's me who is bad. Xiao Ming said softly.
Xiao Fang was stunned for a moment, a hint of relief flashed in her eyes, she gently moved her body and lay down in Xiao Ming's arms.
I'm also at fault, let's communicate more in the future. She whispered.
Xiao Ming hugged his beloved wife, his eyes were calm and firm. He knows that relationships require effort and understanding on both sides.
As long as they face it positively and dissolve their grievances with love, they will be able to overcome all difficulties and work together to create a happy future.
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