01Develop as many hobbies as possible.
Over time, we've become more and more mature.
Our approach to things can no longer be as childish as it was when we were children.
We learn more and more ways to get along with others, because we know that everyone has a different way of getting along with each other. We will find that we all relate to others differently, because our relationships may be close or strange.
And the importance of others in our hearts is also different, which will make us get along with them in different ways.
Some people are suitable for deep friendship because they have a common understanding with us, and they are important people in our lives.
But there are some people who we can't make friends with because they are the opposite of our values.
When we grow up, we will become more mature in dealing with all kinds of interpersonal relationships.
We can no longer be like when we were children, we don't play with whoever we don't want to play, and we want to make friends with whomever we want, so we boldly chase after it.
When we grow up, we have to weigh more benefits.
No matter what kind of relationship we are dealing with, we must know that we are the masters of our own lives, and we must look for as many hobbies as possible.
Don't always ruin your mood because of relationships, and don't see intimacy as an essential part of our lives.
We should have a number in our hearts. But when the peony relationship really can't go on, we should leave as soon as possible.
02Make high-quality friends.
When we were younger, we would play with others because they shared snacks with us.
When we grow up, we realize that these behaviors are actually naïve, and we have to consider more factors when making friends with others.
Since childhood, our parents have told us that we must make friends with better people, we don't understand these truths when we are young, but when we grow up, we will take the initiative to do these things.
We don't have to have a lot of friends, but we must have our own criteria for choosing friends.
Make your circle of friends as simple as possible and don't mix too many impurities.
Moreover, some people are more in line with our three views, and they do not make friends with us based on interests.
But some people have a lot more than just the purpose of making friends with you from the beginning, they want to calculate you and get some benefits from you.
Some people have a milder personality, and they are also very simple, and they have always worked hard, so such people do have many advantages that we can learn from.
But there are also some people who are ** by nature, not pure in thinking, and have always been negative and depressed, so this kind of person will only make our mood worse.
So making a good friend can make our life better, but a friend who is not at odds with us can also easily disturb our minds.
03Make your own space.
No matter who we make friends with, no matter how close our relationship is, we must know that we have to have room for freedom with each other.
Even though the two of us are lovers and special beings to each other, we are also independent individuals, and we need time to be alone.
So a lot of times, we don't try to control others, we have to leave their own space for others.
Too much control and possessiveness can sometimes make a relationship very heavy.
Therefore, we should try to make the other party feel at ease as much as possible and let the other party take the initiative to choose.
Everyone has their own ideas, and we have to allow all kinds of ideas to exist, and not to interfere with other people's ideas just because they are special to them.
No matter how close your relationship is, the other person will definitely not like someone who controls him.
So we must manage ourselves, don't always sway other people's ideas, and make our relationship more relaxed.
04Learn to love yourself.
In a relationship, it's easy to lose yourself a lot of the time.
We will find that after we have established a relationship with someone else, our attention is always focused on the other person.
We will all feel the words and deeds of others, but we must also learn to love ourselves a little more.
Spending all our time on the other person can sometimes make us lose sight of ourselves.
Caring for each other is a sign that you love each other.
But if you care too much about the other person's words, many times it will cause some unnecessary trouble.
After establishing a relationship, it's easy to get caught up in it, and when we give something to the other person, it's hard to notice what we're thinking.
Therefore, in everything you do, you must first love yourself and first follow your own way of thinking.
We need to think more about whether we are happy in this relationship, and whether we are acting in accordance with our own hearts.