01 Don't always lift the bar.
Then the older we get, the more we will find that there needs to be some truth in the way we get along with others.
When we were young, we always thought that we would be friends with whoever we liked, and when we grew up, we realized that in fact, our criteria for measuring others were too simple.
When I was a child, the direct and simple way of communication is no longer applicable, and when I grow up, I will have a new way of communication.
We must remember not to always raise the bar with others.
Because no one likes a person who is always arguing with himself, who has been friends for a long time.
Who doesn't love a friend who agrees with them?
Sometimes we do want to refute the other person's point of view, but we might as well change the refutation to a suggestion.
Who doesn't like to be able to win when arguing with others?
But sometimes what others say is just not rigorous, and logically speaking, there is nothing wrong with what he says.
But you still don't refute him, as long as there is a little loophole to exploit, you have to criticize others.
Such people are actually more tired to get along with anyone, we must understand the feelings of others, and don't always deal with a relationship with our own way of thinking.
Sometimes, even if other people's words may be a little wrong, but we should not grasp them unrelentingly, and if we don't let go of other people's mistakes, some things will pass in the past.
02Don't interfere in other people's lives.
When dealing with others, we must remember that we should care more about our own affairs.
Everyone has their own ideal way of life, and everyone's lifestyle is different.
Can we make everyone's way of life like our own?
For example, sometimes you don't approve of other people's transfers, and you think that the clothes they wear are too revealing, or too conservative.
If you accuse them and make them wear clothes that match your vision, will you be qualified to judge others?
Everyone has a different way of starting a business, so why do we have to make everyone's innovation style exactly the same? Respecting differences is an important part of how we can communicate well with others.
Even if it is difficult to understand certain things in our way of thinking, we still try to accept these special beings.
We should put ourselves in their shoes and wonder if we like others to take care of our lives.
Just like when we were children, we all need our parents to control our time when we watch TV.
We start to argue against other people's interference in our lives from an early age, so why should we talk about things we don't like and blame them on others?
03Don't be too nice to others.
When interacting with others, we must know that we must have reservations with others.
Keeping a distance when interacting with others may be best for both of us.
We must remember to treat others without always sacrificing our own interests to fulfill them.
Because sometimes we regret why we made these sacrifices for them in the first place.
I can get a better result, but I get an unsatisfactory result because I have fulfilled others.
And sometimes you're too nice to someone and they'll take it for granted.
Some people are always used to others helping themselves, thinking that they are weaker and that others should help them.
It's enough for us to do our own thing, don't always take care of that.
Others have other people's choices, and how others treat your efforts is their own business.
Since you voluntarily choose to pay, how others deal with this matter really has nothing to do with us.
If we are often deceived, then we do have to think about it.
It's okay to help others as a son, don't always think that the more you help, the better.
We all have a lot of things to solve ourselves, and we should spend more time on ourselves.
04 Restrain expressiveness.
It's actually normal to like to express yourself.
Who doesn't want others to compliment us, who doesn't want others to see our unique temperament?
So we often express ourselves inadvertently.
It's a thing to like to express yourself, but if we behave too aggressively, it can cause some unnecessary problems.
What you think is unique for yourself may not be unique in the eyes of others.
Then you will be disappointed because people don't understand you. So why do we want to do such a useless thing? In fact, compared to showing ourselves, we might as well precipitate ourselves more and make ourselves more capable.
It's more important for us to do something that has actual alumni.
As a human being, we must not be too immersed in our own world, and sometimes we also have to consider the surrounding environment and the feelings of the people around us.
Sometimes it's really enjoyable for us to be true to ourselves.
But many times we need to restrain ourselves, because we have a lot of people in this world, and we can't do it, and we can completely show ourselves in front of others.