In the workplace within the system, there is a potential"Superiors and subordinates"with"Boss", each person is assigned a rank and status when they enter the unit. Ordinary workers are naturally young, and leaders are old men. This is destined to mean that on some occasions, everyone must abide by the rules and talk about the rules.
My name is Zhao Liuliu and I am an ordinary civil servant. Although he is only a small clerk, he is still more principled and ethical. For superior leaders, I have my own set of principles and"Unspoken rules"。The Chinese New Year is approaching, and I decided to follow mine"Unspoken rules"Act.
I have a boss named Director Zhang. Not only does he have a lot of power in his hands, but he is also quite shrewd and capable, and he is sleek and sophisticated. As an ordinary clerk, I was in awe of him. Director Zhang also attaches great importance to me, and will consult with me if there is anything to do. I am naturally grateful for his trust and support, and I am happy to serve him.
The Spring Festival is approaching, and I plan to send a little heart to Director Zhang. My hometown is small, but the specialties are still very good. I asked my family to send some food and handicrafts, thinking that I would take them out during the Chinese New Year to honor Director Zhang.
The package arrived quickly. In order to avoid crowds during the festival, I decided to send the gifts to Director Zhang by courier a few days in advance. I wrote a text message with my own handwriting, and said simply and sincerely:"Director Zhang, the New Year is coming, I will give you an early greeting, and prepared some hometown specialties, just a little heart, I wish you a happy New Year! "Then the parcel will be delivered to your door.
Early the next morning, the courier company showed that the package had been signed. I was happy in my heart and immediately sent a text message to Director Zhang:"Director Zhang, I sent you a little bit of hometown souvenirs yesterday, and you should have received them. Wishing you all the best and good health in the new year! Thank you very much for your care and support in the past year! "
I thought that Director Zhang would reply to me soon, but I didn't expect that until the day before the Chinese New Year, he didn't hear back. I'm starting to get a little anxious and wondering if my gift is too cold. Or did Director Zhang not receive it at all? Maybe he doesn't want my gift at all?
During the Chinese New Year, I was always nervous. The text messages of relatives and friends replied one by one, but Director Zhang's one has not been answered, which makes me restless. On the first day of work after the Chinese New Year, I couldn't wait to find Director Zhang's office.
Director Zhang, did you really not receive my package? "I asked tentatively.
Director Zhang raised his head and glanced at me, and said after a moment of silence"Oh, it's the one you sent it, I got it. "
So why haven't you ever responded to my text messages? "I asked with some hesitation.
Director Zhang said with a smile"I thought you were just politely talking, but I didn't expect you to take it seriously. Besides, you're also my subordinate, so I'm supposed to send you something, so why do you want to give me a gift in turn? "
I smiled, thinking that although Director Zhang was kind, he obviously didn't have a backache when he stood and spoke. Of course, I know that as a subordinate, it is a bit excessive to take the initiative to give gifts to the leader, but shouldn't I express my gratitude?
Seeing that my face was embarrassed, Director Zhang changed his words and spoke in a kind tone"However, I am still very considerate of your heart. You're expressing your heart for your family, right? The things that were specially sent from your hometown must be very local, and I have accepted them. "
That's good, that's good. "I nodded again and again, secretly glad that the gift was not rejected by Director Zhang. It's just that he hasn't replied to my text messages, which really makes me a little sad and puzzled.
At this moment, Director Zhang suddenly said:"By the way, how did I forget the most important thing? "He took out a delicate gift box from a drawer and handed it to me with both hands"This is a year-end bonus for you, so it should be a little bit of heart in return. "
I quickly took the gift box and was surprised to find that it contained a very expensive watch. I realized that the reason why Director Zhang never replied to my text messages was because he intended to give me back in person. This year-end prize is obviously the heart that Director Zhang gave me back.
I was so excited that I thanked him repeatedly"Director Zhang, you attach too much importance to me, this is it. "
Director Zhang interrupted me with a smile"Well, well, you have also contributed a lot to the unit in the past year, and this is what you deserve. In the new year, we will continue to work together to contribute to the development of the unit! "
In this way, a small New Year's gift is like a fuse, igniting a circle of ripples of positive energy. Originally, I thought that Director Zhang would refuse to accept the gift, but I didn't expect him to not only accept it, but also prepare a heavier gift to give back to me. It seems that for the professionals in the system, it is an intangible ability and wisdom to deal with interpersonal relationships and the relationship between superiors and subordinates.
This little thing tells us that in the workplace within the system:
First of all, to follow"There is the old and the old, and the next must quit fighting"principles. As a subordinate, you can't go past your superiors and go directly to a higher level of leadership, which is a big taboo. At the same time, you can't compete for power and profit with the old predecessors at the same level, which is a greater taboo. Do things honestly and step by step.
Secondly, we must master the unspoken rules of the workplace. There is a subtle hierarchical relationship between superiors and subordinates, and subordinates taking the initiative to give gifts may cause the leader to be defensive and think that there is some intention. Therefore, subordinates generally give gifts to leaders"Steps", so that the leader has face.
Third, it is necessary to break the psychological defense line of the leader. The reason why the leader does not reply is probably waiting for you to take the initiative to ask to see if you are sincere. Subordinates should take the initiative to show favor and express their intentions, and the leader will naturally respond.
Finally, be courteous. Subordinates give gifts to express gratitude, and leaders return gifts to express attention and care. As long as it is handled properly, this kind"Gifts are exchanged"It can enhance the relationship between both parties and create a harmonious working environment.
So in the end, I would like to say that we should be good at taking the initiative in the workplace within the system, cultivating interpersonal relationships and wisdom of power and strategy, and respecting superiors and pleasing their preferences on the premise of abiding by the rules, which is the best way to live in the workplace. Workplace