**: China Youth Daily (2024-03-01 05 edition), China Youth Daily reporter Li Huaxi.
Once I went to a restaurant to eat, I saw a mother with a child and another lady dining, in order to avoid the child disturbing the two chatting, the child just sat on the dining chair, and the mother gave him a mobile phone, **cartoon for the child to watch. The child looked at the phone very quietly throughout the meal, and waited until the mother finished chatting and let the child eat, but the child was indifferent. Mom had no choice but to snatch the phoneIn exchange, the child cried in the restaurant. In front of everyone's eyes, the mother had to hurriedly check out and pack, and left with the child in her arms. "Mobile phone battles" like this are often encountered in public places such as restaurants, parks, hospitals, and high-speed rail. A mobile phone can calm your childBut it is also a mobile phone, which makes the relationship between parents and children "chickens fly and dogs jump". Minors' mobile phone access to the Internet has become a hot topic in recent years. According to the "Fifth National Survey Report on Internet Use by Minors" released by the Ministry for the Protection of Youth Rights and Interests of the Youth League and the China Internet Network Information Center (CNNIC), the scale of underage Internet users has exceeded 1 in 20229.3 billion, and the proportion of underage Internet users using mobile phones to access the Internet has remained at about 90. The post-00s and post-10s are the "aborigines" of the Internet, and they have grown up with the development of the Internet, and their familiarity and dependence on network technology far exceed that of any previous generation. But this digital lifestyle also brings some problems. While enjoying convenience, the post-00s and post-10s also face challenges such as cyberbullying, privacy leakage, and Internet addiction. Some of them rely too much on the internet, leading to real-life interpersonal alienation and even psychological problems. In the past winter vacation, children's free time has increased, and many children will kill time by swiping their mobile phones, however, it is really difficult for parents to give out their mobile phones and then want to come back. Helpless parents can only grab mobile phones, grab mobile phones, and even drop mobile phones and hide mobile phones, but how can children who have been fascinated by the Internet give up, so there is a "big war" between parents and children. Some netizens summarized several stages of the "mobile phone battle" between parents and children:Phase 1, parents confiscated mobile phones, children demonstrated to their parents, and "rotten" for a few days without eating or playing. Phase IIThe child began to find various excuses to use the mobile phone, such as punching in and turning in homework. Parents can't keep an eye on it all the time, and slowly, the usage time is getting longer and longer, from punching in to chatting, and then playing games. Phase 3For example, if you played for two hours yesterday, you will ask for at least two hours today, and the game time is getting longer and longer. Stage 4, the parents are angry and say "I don't care about you anymore", the child is happy to accept it, play a lot, quickly lose control, do not write homework, and stay up late to play. Then it goes back to the first stage, where parents collect their mobile phones. In fact, so that children are no longer obsessed with mobile phones, and parents confiscate mobile phones is a palliative rather than a cure. The most fundamental solution is for parents to make changes themselves. According to the "Fifth National Survey Report on Internet Use by Minors".About a quarter of parents consider themselves dependent on the InternetAttention also needs to be paid to the improvement of parents' online literacy. Parents are role models for their children, and their children see every move. In order for children not to be obsessed with mobile phones, parents should first restrain their desire to play with mobile phones, try not to play with mobile phones in front of their children, and let themselves become role models for their children to follow. At the same time, parents should also set rules for their children, for example, from Monday to Friday, stipulating that children can look at their mobile phones for one hour a day and up to three hours on weekends, and strictly follow the rules. It can also be further stipulated that you should not play with your mobile phone in 3 places at home: first, do not play with your mobile phone in bed, lying down and playing with your mobile phone will affect your vision and sleep; Second, don't play with your mobile phone at the dinner table, because playing with your mobile phone at dinner is not conducive to communication and communication between family members, and will also affect digestion; The third is not to play with your mobile phone in the toilet, there will be a lot of bacteria, and it is a waste of time. The most important thing is to find a "replacement" for the phone for your child. In fact, children are obsessed with mobile phones because they don't know that there are other more fun things. Parents can read with their children, even if they are reading comic books and laughing together, or they can take their children out of the house to play outdoor sports and games. For children, what is more "fun" than mobile phones is the parents who accompany their children to exercise and play games, and parents are the best playmates for children. For the problem of children playing with mobile phones, it is advisable to sparse and not blockedThe snatching and confiscation of mobile phones are all due to choking. What parents can do is to lead by example, set rules and enforce them. Only in this way can you really avoid the "battle for the phone" and live with your child with the phone correctly.