In the complexity of life, kindness seems to have become a virtue and has been praised by countless people. In the real world, excessive kindness often puts people at a disadvantage. Smart people know that they learn from the experiences of others and avoid repeating their own mistakes. Especially middle-aged people, who are burdened with the dual pressure of family and life, should learn to protect themselves and their families while being kind.
We must recognize that excessive kindness will not be appreciated by others. **As the family says, "If you are overzealous, you will not be cherished", this is not only an epigram, but also the norm in real life. In the story of the Spring and Autumn Period, Gongzicheng takes advantage of Hua Leopard's respect for the "gentleman" and turns defeat into victory, telling us that when facing enemies, excessive etiquette will only restrain oneself. In the same way, the farmer saves the snake and the passerby and the mad dog reason, which are all good misunderstandings. Middle-aged people who lend money in a way that does not collect debts, but continues to lend money to others, is an unprincipled generosity that only puts oneself in trouble.
Kindness is not worthless, the key lies in how to do it right. "Memories of the Scattered Stars" wrote, "Without the protection of the blade, the beauty of the world cannot bloom to the fullest." "Kindness should be like a sword hidden in its sheath, both to show its goodness and to protect itself when necessary. For example, netizens on Zhihu, after helping the aunt who pushed the cart, wisely chose to stop the loss and avoid greater damage. This kind of measured kindness not only helps others but also protects oneself.
Middle age is a turning point in life, and we should choose the object of kindness wisely at this time. The essence of goodness is mutual, it is a tree that shakes another tree, and a flower that encourages another flower. Han Xin and Zhu Yuanzhang in history have both been kindly helped and eventually repaid their benefactors. When we help others, we should not expect something in return, but at least we should be grateful and respected. This is the bottom line of kindness.
Finally, middle-aged people should take history as a mirror, take people as a mirror, avoid associating with bad people, and not get entangled in bad things. In society, we should be vigilant and not hurt others, but also protect ourselves. Our light should not cause chaos in society, but should become a warm kindness.
In this challenging world, each of us is a walking traveler. Let's learn to protect ourselves and make life better while being kind.
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