In life, there are people everywhere who like to show off.
Mom and Dad became officials, the child scored 100 points in the exam, the family bought a new car, a few taels of silver in their pockets, went to a big hotel for a meal, and had a pair of brand-name shoes. Some people regard divorce as a capital to show off.
Bacon once said, "The ostentatious are despised by the wise, envied by the foolish, flattered by the sycophants, and at the same time slaves to the words of their boasts." ”Show-off is everywhere, and the scourge is everywhere. In a word, as soon as you raise your hand, you take a step, but if you fall into the category of showing off, there will be signs of bad things.
For the family, a person who loves to show off is enough to ruin the efforts of all family members, and they should know and correct it early.
In any kind of show-off, there is a family crisis hidden.
Showing off is a disease that can distort a person's three views and change the original intention of the effort.
Su Shi said in "Sanhuai Hall Inscription": "Loyalty has been passed down to the family for a long time, and poetry and books have been passed down for a long time." ”Reading is a shortcut to success in life and a way to maintain family development. But some people regard reading as a capital to show off.
In the last years of the Ming Dynasty, many scholars habitually mixed circles, eating and drinking were common. And when eating and drinking, he pretended to be elegant, wrote a few limerick poems, and showed his talent.
On the banks of the Qinhuai River, the wind and moon are boundless, and many scholars gather there, reading books in order to sing against the geisha. As stated in "Itabashi Miscellaneous"."Fuhui has been cultivated in several lifetimes, and the husband of the family is Donglin".
Du Shaoqing in "The History of Confucianism" relied on the wealth left by his ancestors and lived a happy life. But he likes to make friends, and he sells his family wealth and gives it to friends who don't want to be motivated, even if he is deceived by his friends, it doesn't matter.
He himself read a few books, wrote some poems and articles, and attended some literati gatherings.
There was a ** recommendation for Du Shaoqing, but he pretended to be sick and said:"I'm a showman, with this ending, I shouldn't take the township exam in the future, and I won't take the subject or year exam, so I'm at ease and do something of my own. ”
Clear-eyed people know at a glance that he can only show off his talent, and it is unbearable to really be an official.
Unable to engage in business, nor able to keep the family's agriculture, Du Shaoqing became poor and relied on pawning things to make a living.
All the show-offs are "embroidered pillows", which can't stand dismantling; What you show off, you lose something.
When a family is about to decline, in addition to showing off the books it has read, it will also show off the following things.
One,Show off your money, decorate yourself with a lot of money, buy luxury cars, branded clothes, luxury goods, etc. The money is spent, but the things you buy have no value, and you resell second-hand goods, and the depreciation is very strong.
Second,Showing off the circle and thinking that you have made a lot of friends, and a certain big person is your friend, is amazing. Think about it seriously, what is the use of you storing Ma Yun and Liu Qiangdong's **? People don't bother to take care of you.
Thirdly,Show off your skills, and the people around you will applaud and secretly be jealous. There will always be people who will cause trouble and become an obstacle to your career development.
Because of showing off and losing money, developing a hypocritical lifestyle, and encountering various blows, it's no wonder that life doesn't fail. When one person falls, the family suffers, and the "domino effect" begins.
Maintain a humble posture and the family can turn defeat into victory.
When the talents of the Ming Dynasty showed off vigorously,Gu YanwuDress modestly and bury your head in reading.
The Xiucai next to him made fun of him and gave him a nickname-Gu Wei.
On the way to study, he had few friends, onlyReturn to the bankercan talk, the two of them also went to Nanjing to take the exam together.
As the saying goes, "In the world of crows, swans are guilty." ”In an era when everyone was frivolous, Gu Yanwu, who was immersed in hard study, had many scientific expeditions, but he did not have a Zhongjin sergeant.
When he was twenty-seven years old, the world was in turmoil, he gave up scientific research, began to study history, agriculture, minerals, etc., and wrote the "Book of Diseases of the Heavenly Counties" and "Zhaoyu Chronicles".
In the sixteenth year of Chongzhen, his family donated money to do good deeds, and Gu Yanwu was concerned and recommended as the prisoner of the country.
When we read"The rise and fall of the world is the responsibility of the husband".When you say this, you can feel Gu Yanwu's aura, and you can also know how big his family is.
From the analysis of Gu Yanwu's family, there are at least two low-key behaviors that are worth learning.
First of all, just bury your head in your books, don't boast about yourself with "learning rich five cars", don't feel that you read too much, and you will be satisfied. The more I read, the more I feel ignorant.
Then, the family had money, not only to be happy, but also to be happy. Instead of showing off, it is better to help people who are really in need, expand the positive energy of the family, and form a good reputation. As Gu Yanwu said: "Life is rich and noble, and there is only a golden stone of glory and longevity." ”
I've seen a story.
A group of teenagers go to the temple to study and find that the gate is not open, and can only enter through the small door.
The small door was very low, and the teenagers touched the door frame one after another, and it was very painful, and they had to bow their heads.
Soon, the teenagers were less foreign and more ambitious.
The family is composed of a family, if you go through the short door together and insist on bowing your head forward, you can work hard and be quiet and far-reaching.
As Lao Tzu said: "Holding on to it is not as good as it; It cannot be kept for a long time. The house is full of gold and jade, and Mo can keep it; Rich and arrogant, self-blame. After retiring, the way of heaven is also. ”Families that can achieve great things are always unsharp, and gold and silver treasures will also shine gold at home.
A house with coin-like tiles on its exterior walls can only make people feel vulgar; A family, wearing gorgeous clothes to go out, makes people avoid it; opened his mouth to "be the one who cares", smiling and generous.
A family, pay attention to their own cultivation, quietly cultivate, quietly harvest, quietly enjoy the harmonious atmosphere, even if they live in a humble room, they will flourish.
True happiness is not an ornament, but the simplicity and nobility of the heart.
Whether it's a day or a relationship, it's true that it's plain.