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Recently, readDr. Hailan's "Imperfect, Beautiful".There are many points in the book that have touched me, and I will share them with you in different topics
Share the theme: abandon the "Cinderella" in the fairy tale and become the "Snow White" in reality.
In the book, Dr. Hailan shares: ".I know that everyone wants to be happy, they all want to be free from pain, and they all want to have an easy life. But if there is anyone in this world who can meet these needs, that person is definitely not the man you have high hopes for, but yourself, your own industriousness, your own efforts, your own wisdom, strength and love.
Every girl longs to be happy and loved, but many people will pin their hopes on men. In fact, it is none other than yourself that can help you realize your ideals and aspirations. What can achieve oneself is the hard work, sweat and tears that have been shed, the wisdom and wisdom that one has, and the innate love and strength that one has.
I believe that Dr. Hailan's words will deeply impact the hearts of many girls.
It is undeniable that there are many girls who want to "take fewer detours" and even "go straight to the top". In fact, some girls are lucky in the eyes of others, while most girls need to accumulate and wait for a blockbuster.
Since I was a child, I have understood that what I want and what I want to achieve needs to rely on my own strength"If you want to, you should work hard and strive for it" seems to be an inherent consciousness in my mind.
Because of this inherent awareness, I have been particularly able to "toss" since I was a child. I believe,As long as you are willing to put in the energy and time, and concentrate on the things at hand, you will definitely be able to get it done. That's what the 10,000-hour rule tells us.
My growth process along the way has also confirmed the correctness of many methods. So I set myself a flag this year as wellMy first work is about the growth of women, and I hope it can resonate with everyone, so that more women can regain their confidence in themselves and use this love and strength to become a better and better version of themselves.
I had this idea for a reason. Because I've seen too many girls "settle for the status quo" and pin almost all of their hopes in life on others. WhileIf they don't have pursuits, don't have ideas, or think that the current state is "just right", then they should be able to feel the joy and joy of life.
But actually,Almost all girls are "pursued".Once these "pursuits" cannot be realized or satisfied in others who have pinned their hopes, a lot of negative emotions will arise, which will cause tension in the relationship.
I know a girl who, because she is "a little older", her family often "urges marriage", and according to her, she chose a partner in desperation.
Once we met in a coffee shop, she talked about the recent situation and said: I didn't have any idea of getting married at that time, but my family wanted me to start a family soon. And I thought that as long as there was someone who could take care of me and take care of everything at home, I would probably be able to live together without worrying about the trivial matters of life.
I didn't express much of her opinion in the face of her thoughts. Because I know that the responsibility of the family is first shared by the husband and wife, and if I keep expecting the other person to "do something for me", I may end up more "settling accounts" than sincerely working hard for the happiness of the other party. And the life you want is built by your own efforts.
Actually, to put it bluntly, that isThe first thing is to "satisfy yourself".
Only you can clearly know what kind of ability you have, how far you can go, and what kind of life you can give yourself. And all of this is not something that can be achieved by pinning it on others. If the other party can't achieve it, has it properly become the fuse for two people to resentful of each other?
remembers a star's bold remarks on a variety show:I don't need a big family, I'm a "big family" myself. This is the essence of this sentence.
A lot of girls have always "fantasized" about being "Cinderella", and I think"Cinderella" is also good enough to attract even better people to notice you.
I still remember that when I was a freshman, the dean of our School of Management and Economics once said to all our students: everyone wants to meet "rich and handsome", and we use the probability of economics to "calculate the account". Among the "he" in the crowd, 1 10 are tall enough, and the proportion of him who is very rich is also 1 10, and 1 10 of these people are very handsome, plus good character, can take care of people, have no bad habits, and ......so onMultiply so many 1 10s, and the final result may be 1 in 100,000. Excuse me,There is only one outstanding "him" in the crowd among 100,000 people, why should he choose you?
We all burst into laughter. Definitely,With such a good person, the Law of Attraction will also allow him to meet someone as good as him.
In fairy tales, the story of the prince and princess is not entirely accidental, but only a "small probability event" occurred, and "opportunities are always given to those who are prepared".
So,I hope that all women can pay attention to themselves, pay attention to the present, and live a life for themselves. Just like the sun, by burning itself, it gives a dazzling light to all the stars of the universe.
Jump out of the fairy tale world of "Cinderella" and "build" yourself into the "Snow White" in the real world:
1.[Focus on "yourself"]:This is very important, to pay attention to your own state, your real needs, and to set yourself the direction and goals to work towards. There are many girls who set their eyes on the people around them and every family member, but not on themselves. In particular, many stay-at-home mothers pour all their efforts into their families and children, but they trap themselves in various daily affairs, ignoring that they also need to "grow". Quickly break out of this habitual state and ask yourself: What do I want? How can I bring these ideas to life? Write down all the things you want to do in a small notebook, and set down what you can do in the near future within your ability for each item, and get closer to yourself step by step.
2.[Rejection of "excuses"]:Don't always say that you are "busy" or "have no time", there is nothing more important in the world than yourself. Just imagine, if we can't even live a good life, and we can't live a good life, how can we influence the people around us to live a good life? People living in society cannot be completely "isolated from the world", and there will always be various ties that bring everyone together. Since the reality is like this, we need to have measures and actions to deal with it, which is to stop "making excuses" and "finding reasons" for ourselves, and set goals must be put into action, so that we can let ourselves and others see that you are willing to change, you who are positive and full of energy, and you who are different in the crowd.
3.[Abandon "comfort"]:Of course, the premise is that if you like and enjoy the "comfort" of the moment, there is no problem with this state, and you don't need to "do it for the sake of doing it". And what I want to express more is that many times when you "push" yourself and "be ruthless" to yourself, many situations will be different. Each of us has a strong potential, but we just need the right time and the right opportunity to bring it out. In the past, many of my friends always told me that the excellent friends around me are examples of the "1%" in life, maybe only one or two "1%", and I will be convinced, but everyone is the "1%", and I am sure that "ordinary people can also become the 1% that everyone yearns for". Excellent people will attract more excellent people, don't doubt yourself, you just need to focus on the present, go all out, and abandon "content with the status quo" to create more possibilities for you.
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