For example, if a person is hard and becomes soft after the hardness is finished, then he finds that there is positive feedback, and if he is soft, he can get some benefits, and he will think, oh, this is how he did.
It's good to have an idea, but it's not necessarily good to have an idea. There is a saying in China that you listen to people's persuasion and eat well. It's not that this kind of child is not necessarily bad, but that he must suffer losses. After he suffered a loss. That's what we want. He was able to turn around before he was killed by a bounce back from the south wall. I'll tell you one of the most interesting things. When I first joined the company, when I first came out of this job, I was working for an educational tutoring agency.
You know that at that time, I was speaking in Northeast dialect, just tiger, do you know how far the tiger is? All our middle-level leaders have a meeting here, a big long table, the boss sits at the very end, I dare to sit opposite the boss, everyone else sits on both sides, and I sit opposite the boss alone. At that time, we did the enrollment brochure, and the boss took the enrollment brochure of other people's counseling agencies to look here, and he said that you see the first page of the enrollment brochure of this counseling agency, what are we going to put in this, what are we going to put in the second one, what rewards we have received, what rewards we have received, and we have to put more other rewards we have obtained. How far am I? When the boss took someone else's investment brochure and said what we should do with this investment brochure, I said at the time, I said boss, you can't do this, we follow other people's butts, we are always second, we should think about what we should do, instead of looking at what others should do. I'm not a tiger, I'm a tiger. But then our general manager told me, saying Xuefeng, you can't do this, if you do this, will the boss lose face? Will he take you with him in the future? Will he give you a chance to be promoted in the future? He's got him, he's got his problems, what are you going to do? You have to learn a way to deal with the world, the way to chat is called yes and, first affirm, and then put forward additional opinions, instead of saying that the so-called go up and say what opinions you have, you are not right, how should you be, you can't communicate like this. Hey, then I tried this kind of yes and, and found that it worked very well, and it didn't take long for me to get a promotion and a raise, and I knew that I wanted yes and and and and so on. So sometimes, a person's growth must have suffered a related blow. In the future, and if he changes, he must be something, there must be positive feedback, there must be positive feedback. For example, if I give you an example, if a person is hard and becomes soft after the hard is finished, and he says that after he is soft, he finds that there is positive feedback, and after he is soft, he can get some benefits, and he will think, oh, this is how it is. He's going to be soft because he's getting positive feedback. In any position, social skills are very important, is it true that you say soft power? If a person only has hard power and no soft power, he will not starve to death, he will definitely not starve to death, but those people who can really be at a relatively high height must be people with strong hard power and soft power. Don't think that I can do it, no, that is, hard power determines his starting point, and soft power determines his height, which is really the case, that is, soft power is very important, communication skills are very important, emotional intelligence is very important, and any profession is this. But you don't have this emotional intelligence, you or soft power is not so strong, you don't have to be anxious, don't worry. Why? First of all, everyone thinks that communication skills can be cultivated, I personally think that they can be cultivated, I personally think they can be cultivated, communication skills can definitely be cultivated, to say something unpleasant, he may open up when he encounters more things. Sometimes don't be afraid, say what will happen to your child in the future, what will happen to you or what will happen. A true person will only learn when he suffers a loss, and he will only learn, and if this is the case, he will only learn after he has suffered a loss. I don't know if you have this feeling, that is, I may be much gentler than before, I don't know if you have this feeling, that is, if you see my ** three or four years ago, you may find that I am at this time, I three or four years ago, including when I first started to fire, my personality may be sharper than now, and my speech is sharper than now. But then I suffered a loss, I suffered a loss, and after I suffered a loss, the middleman told me, saying that you don't want to be like that, what do you have to do, hey, after I changed it a little, I did get benefits, I think this change is useful, I do get benefits, and grind me into what I am now. In fact, anyone is like this, he can cultivate it, especially if you get a pointer from a person at a certain stage of your life, and this guidance is likely to make you different. Finally, each person's situation is unique and analyzed on a case-by-case basis. May everyone find their place!