In the workplace, we often encounter a variety of leaders. Sometimes the behavior of a leader can make us feel valued and recognized, while other times it can make us feel neglected and excluded. So, how can you tell if the leader has taken you as one of their own? If these signs appear at work, congratulations, the leader treats you as his own
1. Sharing private information
If the leader is willing to share his private information with you, such as family background, hobbies, etc., or take you to his private parties, family gatherings, or even take you into his circle, it usually means that he has regarded you as "his own person", which is also a sign that he really wants to cultivate you. This sharing is not just a communication at work, but is built on trust and closeness. Leaders in the workplace are often very different from leaders in life, because leaders can slowly let go of their selfishness in private and communicate with you more "really". Not everyone is qualified to access the core information of the leader, only those who are deeply believed by the leader can be given a "ticket" by the leader, and only when you are exposed to this information, you will become the leader's henchman.
2. Ask for your opinion
A good leader will always pay attention to the work status and psychological state of employees, and take the initiative to communicate with employees to understand their needs and ideas. If your leader often takes the initiative to communicate with you and listens carefully to your opinions, then it is likely that he has already treated you as his own. He trusts your judgment and decision-making abilities and wants your voice heard. He values your insights and opinions, which is not only a recognition of your ability, but also a trust in you, and it also allows you to participate in decision-making, so as to improve your leadership and pave the way for your personal development.
3. Arrange important tasks
If a leader treats you as his own, he will delegate important tasks to you and give you full trust and support. When you take on important tasks, your leader will discuss the work plan and schedule with you, and give you the necessary guidance and help in the process. This behavior shows that the leader has recognized your ability and value in your work, and hopes that you will have more room for development in the company. This usually means that he believes in your abilities and strength. He sees you as "his own person" who can take on heavy responsibilities, which is also an affirmation of your work ability and professionalism.
Fourth, assign personal affairs
The so-called private matter is actually a very important matter, which may seem like a small thing, but in fact, the leader trusts you at the beginning of an important matter. Under normal circumstances, leaders will only explain personal things to reliable people. In the workplace, the leader's private affairs should be treated as their own private affairs. Many people rise to the top by doing private things for leaders, but not everyone can do private things for leaders, and even unceremoniously say that sometimes doing private things for leaders is a kind of welfare. Normally, only when the leader is at ease with you will be willing to hand over his personal affairs to you. And whether the leader is willing to let you do private things for him can undoubtedly show whether you are his own person in his heart. If you don't believe me, you can look at the leaders around you who are giving their private affairs to handle.
Fifth, praise less and criticize more
A leader who really treats you as his own will not praise you in front of everyone, at least not often, but will likely criticize you in front of everyone. The reason is very simple, praising you in front of everyone is to make you an enemy, and it is to make you stand out from the crowd and be the first bird. Criticizing you in front of everyone is to help you clear some of the hostility that is being placed against you and to encourage you to keep trying. Of course, the criticism here is the criticism that raises your problems and solves your problems, not scolding and unjustified targeting, and this point should also be clearly distinguished. The leader is in his own office and praises you alone, which is a good thing, proving that he really wants to train you and really treat you as his own.
When your leader has the above five manifestations for you, it is undoubtedly a great trust and favor for you. This is not only an affirmation, but also a precious asset in the workplace. Such a relationship is a two-way street, based on respect, trust and cooperation. We should cherish this trust and repay the trust and expectation of leaders with practical actions.