01 Learn to be bearish.
We will always encounter all kinds of things in this life, but many of them are just our dreams.
We want someone to never leave us, but in reality everyone has the right to choose, and they don't want to revolve around you, so they can choose to leave.
But we are not so dashing, and their departure will make us very sad, and we will feel as if our world has completely collapsed.
Therefore, when we face all kinds of things, we must not let ourselves fall too deep, and we must leave a way back for ourselves. The importance or nature of each thing is different for us, so the sweat and time we have put in are different.
We will regret that we have given so much, but in exchange for someone else's departure.
We have to try to make ourselves look down on everything.
Thinking too much can really make us feel tired, and sometimes we want to keep things with pleasure, but the faster those things disappear.
Don't put everything in your heart, we must learn to lighten the burden on our heart.
Don't take other people's departure so seriously, because if they choose to leave, it proves that they don't belong to you at all.
02Learn to love yourself.
Instead of always holding others in our hearts, we should care more about ourselves.
Do we remember those beautiful moments that we once imagined?
Now we have an opportunity to travel and do something meaningful.
Because at other times we probably won't be able to convince ourselves to do what we want to do.
If you're really sad right now, take a risk.
We need to raise our passions and allow ourselves to do the things we have wanted to do.
Sometimes even our world isn't that complicated.
It's just that we see things too complicated, we can taste our favorite food, we can see our favorite scenery, and there are many other things we can do.
Instead of drowning ourselves in a sad situation for a long time, we need to find meaningful things to do for ourselves.
Do we have to punish ourselves all the time when others leave?
There's nothing wrong with ourselves, so we have to love ourselves.
Learning to love ourselves is to allow ourselves to look down on all this, not to always be immersed in sadness, but to face everything that happens positively.
Now that these things have happened, we don't have to dwell too much on the present.
03Keep yourself busy.
If we really want to distract ourselves, the most important thing we need to do right now is to keep ourselves as busy as possible.
Let's be too busy to think about the painful past, let's focus on the present.
When we are busy, although we don't know what we're doing, we just need to know that what we're doing is for our own good.
If you're working right now, then let's do our job and don't think about it.
If you're always immersed in the past, what do you gain?
If you're not working right now, make your life richer and go read a book or two of your favorite to get outside and feel the breath of life.
If we live in a busy environment for a long time, we will find that our inner pain seems to be decreasing. In fact, this is indeed the case, because our hearts are constantly touching new things, and those memories are constantly being squeezed out.
So observe life more and spend more time with yourself.
04 Allow everything to happen.
We don't have to make ourselves too sad when we encounter those painful things.
Although we can't stop ourselves from feeling sad, we should constantly adjust our mindset.
Because the body is your own, it's not worth it to hurt your body just because of these sad things.
We should try to live a chic life as much as possible, and we don't have to care so much about the results, and we don't have to care so much about our own gains and losses.
For example, in a relationship, we must learn to accept the results that others give us.
If someone else is leaving, why should we bother to keep it?
We must respect the choices of others, and we must also respect ourselves and not allow ourselves to live too humblely.
It is actually meaningless to exchange one's own grievances for others to stay.
Because since others choose to leave, no matter how we try to keep them, it is actually difficult to change their minds.
We have to allow everything to happen, and we have to accept the effects of everything.
We may not be able to control the external objective things, but we have the privilege of changing our own inner perceptions. So let's care more about ourselves and make our hearts as relaxed as possible.