Hello everyone, I'm Ryo Kutani, a nutrition therapist, and today's topic is:
Female Empowerment 3, now on to the topic:
It is very important to maintain the soul and energy, not to punish yourself for the mistakes of others, and not to get angry and depressed because what others do does not conform to your own values and sense of morality.
What really matters is that your thoughts and emotions are not affected, and when you encounter something like this, you can glance at it, demarcate it from the "thoughts and emotions" of others, and return to a clear and peaceful place within yourself.
As long as you are aware and adjust immediately after each inner conflict, the process will last shorter and shorter.
You are right, others are wrong, you have positive energy, others have negative energy, these are not important, because she is her, you are you.
You don't take responsibility for giving someone else's mistakes back.
People who are not high enough in their core energy and delicate and sensitive are easily affected by the environment and carried away by the needs of others.
As a result, they are besieged by all kinds of external information "harassment", coming and going, and if they can't keep their own energy, it is easy to leak internal friction, and at least they will not succeed and do nothing, and at worst they will lose themselves and damage their minds.
Whether it is love, marriage, or work and career, there is a great possibility of becoming a thankless good person, who wants to live and have a career easily, not to see who has more strength, but to see who can use energy on ideas. When you should clean up, clean up in time, focus when you should focus, when you can use 1 point of energy to achieve 8 points, you can transfer thousands of pounds.
If you don't get married, you don't know how many potholes and bugs you have in your personality; If you don't have children, you don't know how many potholes and bugs you have in your personality
Many people say that they used to live happily and happily, why did I suffer so much when I fell in love, or I was very happy after getting married, and it was so painful to have children.
Let's talk about another energy pool today, the male, or the partner.
I read a book the other day and there is a passage in the book.
The great fortune of a man is that he, both in adulthood and in childhood, must tread a very difficult road, but it is the surest one; The misfortune of a woman is that she is surrounded by an almost irresistible **. She was not asked to work hard, only encouraged to slide down to bliss. By the time she realizes that she has been fooled by a mirage, it is already too late, and her strength has been exhausted in the failed adventure."
This is most likely the difference between men and women in life, work and career.
To put it bluntly: few men really think from a woman's point of view!
So you try to change men from the root through denunciation and abuse, change their underlying thinking, that can't be.
If women can realize that it is enough to find a man who can meet their sexual strength, or when necessary, provide basic physical strength or a little resource support in doing things, and the rest, do not ask for it, do not dwell on it, and focus on the main line of their life.
Just like buying a refrigerator, you don't need to have air conditioning and dishwasher functions, you recognize the brand and function of the refrigerator, buy it, and use it.
Mature women, getting along, cooperating, and needing men in their lives, just make good use of the "refrigerator" function, and do not expect that there are three-in-one appliances in the world.
From the very beginning, I knew why I was with this man, what this man could do, what he couldn't do, and which needs he met, and he knew it, and he accepted it early, didn't cling to it, and didn't transform.
Never expect men to change, don't ask each other to add other functions, and it's better to do something else yourself if you have to fight and sulk. But he will not give up and leave because of this man's single quality, trying to prove that he is strong and does not need a man.
Therefore, to include yourself in the evaluation system of men, the beginning is very important. Passive for one day, passive for life.
A truly mature woman must be androgynous and have two sets of mindsets: male and female.
Do not isolate and abandon men's support, nor rely on men's love, where men's needs are simple, clear, low expectations, and clear goals.
Women who are less emotionally confused have a characteristic that their core needs are met by men, and the rest let go of expectations, do not demand, reduce energy consumption, and do other useful things.
Men's ability to enter and withdraw from the love relationship is not available to women, they have a low threshold for entry, less thinking, enjoy the energy replenishment brought by the experience of love, and then withdraw and enter the reality to continue to participate in the competition, this entry and exit switch is silky and free.
Women have a high threshold for entering a relationship, have too many defenses, and think about it for too long, and withdraw from the relationship to return to reality to survive, often lingering, repeatedly picking up and putting down, and even affecting the main content of their lives, including personal growth and career progress.
Therefore, women should get along with men who meet their core needs, get nourishment, boost energy, and create the rest of their happiness to pursue more meaningful goals.
Leaving the tattered relationship, I would rather be single than fall in love, blindly enter marriage, consume energy, and the better and better relationship is to nourish each other. If you are single, please continue to accumulate, you should cultivate your mind, you should become beautiful, you should improve your ......
And there are only two ways to make a man "better":
You are more awesome than men, you can stand on the top of the mountain to influence, command, and even control them, so that they can obey even if they are dissatisfied.
Second: Although you are not strong enough, you can stand in a weighty circle and use your energy, thoughts, personality, and consciousness to give him subtle and correct guidance.
There is no other way.
Give up illusions and accept reality, so that you can not be twisted, anxious, or consume energy in the relationship between husband and wife, and you will not end up becoming a yellow-faced woman who is disliked by everyone.
I used to punish myself for other people's mistakes, and if I didn't do a good job and didn't satisfy me, I would be angry and unhappy, but now I think about it, it's so stupid.
Now that I live a very simple life, I will understand, I have fewer requirements for my family, less consumption, allow things to happen, and accept and deal with them.
I like to be alone, listen to audio and listen to songs quietly, nourish myself with high energy, and sometimes find an open place to release my emotions through shouting.
What did you like about each other before marriage? Does this still appeal to you after all these years? And where has I grown up over the years?
A woman's second reincarnation is to find the right half, although you can choose, but it is not much different from the first reincarnation, almost blind selection of love and marriage are two different things, love is sweet words, you and I are nong, marriage is firewood, rice, oil and salt, the relationship between the two families is more complicated, and whoever is stronger will dominate.
I have a friend who once talked about the relationship with her husband, when she first got married, she was a little sheep, and when the child grew up little by little, she became stronger and stronger, and she sent away her in-laws and became the backbone of the family. Most mothers instill that girls should honor their in-laws and take good care of their husbands, but no daughter should love herself well, and she didn't dare to straighten her waist to protect her daughter if she was wronged in her in-law's house, so that the woman was at a disadvantage in marriage! Women want to stand up for themselves, and if they are unwilling, they must make the strongest voice, they can't be a little daughter-in-law, set a good example for their daughters, and no one can bully them.
Marriage is like gambling for most women, gambling their whole life, if there is no clear self-awareness, it is easy to lose yourself in marriage, and revolve around the family husband and children for the rest of your life. I really can't tell what I saw before marriage, I really can't say it in retrospect, it may be the feeling at the time, but I feel that this thing is not reliable at all, and there is no freshness when time passes, and the two people are people who live together, and even because of the children, if two people are walking together during this time, one party's cognition is constantly improving, and the other party is still standing still, and the distance between the two will only gradually drift away. Looking for the other half is just that you have found a matching person in your limited cognition at that time, but it does not mean that it will always be suitable, the marriage relationship is like a physical health indicator, it is always dynamic, and both people must work together to learn to manage this relationship.
Marriage is a cooperative exchange relationship, many girls are educated to be weak, need to be given by men, give love, give home, give material, and don't think about what they can give? What can be exchanged? Then look at the quality, to flatter men, first people, then men and women! Women are weak and not fragile, and they are tenacious. Entering marriage, those who enter the game are confused, and those who can stay sober can obtain happiness!
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