Let's preview the next article "The whole process of blind date, what girls have to do".
In contemporary society, not only girls are urged to marry, but boys are also urged to get married.
The strange blind date events on major platforms are fresh every day, and in the face of the topic that every marriageable man and woman can't escape - blind date, I chatted with some unmarried male friends and relatives during the Spring Festival in 2024, as well as some boys who are in the blind date period seen on major platforms, and collected some of the problems and confusions they encountered in the blind date process to do analysis, hoping to help the boys who are destined.
I am a 30+ unmarried girl, I have had some blind date experience (now also in the blind date process, the progress is okay, but it has not yet achieved positive results, and I am working hard), I would like to share my views here, not necessarily completely correct, for reference only:
Collect Question One:In a blind date, before and after meeting, how should honest boys chat? Why is honesty a negative adjective now?
My opinion: Is honest a negative adjective now? I haven't heard of it. Honesty has always been in my heart to know how to give effective practical actions, but my mouth is not very good at expressing the meaning.
Before the meeting,Chat on WeChat, take the initiative to introduce yourself, including basic information, work situation, family situation, hobbies, etc., and it is best to attach a picture of your own life. It's all blind date, it's simple, it's direct, it's done. If the girl responds to the message you sent, she is optimistic about the effective content and continues to expand the topic.
After chatting for about a week, evaluating the effect, and if it is good, I will make an appointment at the right time; The effect is average, continue to chat after analyzing and summarizing the previous chat; If the effect is not good, you should consider whether to go to the meeting with the other person.
After the meeting,Don't be in a hurry to open the conversation, first observe the girl's dress today, and find a point to express appreciation or appreciation (praise first). In addition, I personally think that it is best for both boys and girls to prepare a meeting gift when they meet each other, which is not necessarily precious, but it means that you really value it in your heart, which is a plus.
If you praise the other party, no matter how good the other party is, there will definitely be a response; If you give a gift, the other party will say thank you no matter what. Next, let's assume the table manners during eating or drinking coffee, and give the other party the impression that you are more considerate and respectful of the other party's arrangement, and the overall atmosphere is comfortable and natural. In this way, it is difficult to think of no follow-up. You can't say that you can't chat and "praise" yourself for being honest.,There are very few boys who can't chat.,Most of them don't fancy each other.。
Collection Question 2:In the face of 10 chats, 9 times are the boys who take the initiative, should they hold on or retreat? When should I stop my loss in time?
My opinion: To start a chat, there must always be someone who takes the initiative, whether it is a man or a woman.
If you really have a crush on girls and want to continue to develop, it doesn't matter if you take the initiative to start chatting every time you don't reply (this situation can be declared to be abandoned more than three times without reasonable reason).
And you don't have feelings for girls, you are too troublesome to take the initiative for 1 time, and if you feel it, it will not be too much for 9 initiatives. What you want to improve is the content of your chat, why it doesn't arouse the other party's interest in your chat content after each chat, so as to achieve the purpose of letting the other party take the initiative to chat with you.
I'm really unsure, WeChat makes an appointment to meet and talk clearly, and the effect of meeting once is stronger than chatting 100 times on WeChat. If Edison had calculated the gains and losses in this way, perhaps he would not have been the inventor of the electric light.
Collect Question Three:How to quickly determine whether a girl is suitable for you?
This question was asked by a relative of mine, and I really thought that they were too anxious and very concerned about the gains and losses, so it would be difficult to succeed. I said to him at the time: It seems that you are in a hurry and do not want to waste your time on the wrong person. You're not wrong, just let me give you a warm reminder: "If you want to hurry, you can't reach it".
This is related to a person's emotional experience and ability to observe and communicate. Before the blind date, you must have your own standards for the choice of your future wife in your heart, and compare them one by one with each other in the process of getting along, and most of the standards that can be reached are appropriate.
As for the speed of time, some people think that a year is fast, and some people think that a week is slow, and there is no standard. In terms of personal experience, both of them have a certain amount of love experience, and they often get along for more than two months after meeting on a blind date, and they meet more than 8 times during this period, that is, at least once a week, which can basically judge the suitability of the object. If you have shallow love experience, it is recommended to get along for half a year, see more than 30 times, and it is best to judge it in combination with the opinions of your parents (parents are happy in marriage and have positive views).
Collection Question Four:How many times do you make an appointment, when is it, and what is the best way to do it?
Personal suggestion: The best time to make an appointment with a girl is at lunchtime, afternoon tea time, and dinner time, and it is recommended not to take the initiative to meet in the middle of the night (after 9 o'clock in the evening), and the other party does not count you.
I didn't do anything that was most suitable, and the two of them really had a good plan, even if they wasted time going for a walk together after dinner. I'll order the standard activities of eating, shopping, and watching movies. The suggestion is that you can explore each other's leisure hobbies in the usual chatting process, and you can arrange it if you are interested in participating, such as: fitness, swimming, camping and barbecue, escape room, reading books in the library, watching exhibitions in art galleries, afternoon tea in cafes, archery, horseback riding, playing tennis, golf, board games, etc., as long as you want, too many activities can be arranged.
The principle of the activity is positive, health-oriented, and conducive to communication between both parties, and the atmosphere is that both parties feel safe and comfortable, and it is better to be natural, so that both parties are easy to take off their guard and better communicate further.
Special reminder: Every time they meet, boys must maintain a sense of proportion in their actions, and don't ruin a good fate because of some inappropriate actions.
Collect Question Five:How can you tell if a girl who seems to be a slow heater is really reserved?
Answer: This requires you to contact the girl for a period of time to judge, and it is best to contact the other party's circle of friends, and you can basically judge.
But it is not excluded that there is a kind of girl who is reserved only for the boy she likes, and when you meet this kind of girl, you may use some body language to confirm the other party's attitude and demeanor at the appropriate time.
The more reserved the girl will be the longer the observation period for you, and I hope your patience will not disappoint the other party's real reserve.
"Slow heating" does not mean that you will not take the initiative, but that there will be a period of observation and continuous confirmation before taking the initiative.
To sum up, I found that many boys showed the feeling of an anxious king in the process of blind date, no matter what the girl's reaction was, he just cared that he was in a hurry, and the result was bye-bye. So I suggest that boys don't worry, you are looking for a future relative who can accompany you for the rest of your life, not to buy vegetables in the market, ** is not suitable, and if you don't look happy, you will go next.
Finally, I hope that every unmarried boy who has blind date needs can go smoothly on the blind date road after being fully prepared, and find the ideal marriage partner as soon as possible!