There is a heart-piercing reality: except for blood relations, all other relationships will eventually disappear.
It sounds cruel, but you know what I think?
Actually, we really can't have too many illusions about any relationship, not even family and relatives.
For example, children have fantasies about their parents, how good it would be if their parents were billionaires, so that they can live the life of the rich second generation.
But what about reality? Their parents are so poor that they have been poor for generations, and if there is no major change, then their own children, and even their children's children, will probably continue to be poor in the future.
As parents, they always fantasize that their children can be admitted to top universities, find a job with dignity, have a sweeter mouth, and find a girl to start a family.
But they also know in their hearts that they can't help much, and they still have to fight for their own anger and be an obedient baby.
The result? The child graduated, earned less than 5,000 yuan a month, and always talked back to his parents, which became an "unfilial son".
Men also have fantasies about women, feeling that if they marry her, even if they have no interest, she will have to take care of herself for the rest of her life, like a nanny.
The result? Women are all in charge of the family, and men can't even get a good face.
No matter how much a man says a lot of meaty things, women will not give him the slightest respect.
Women also think that their men can be successful and better than the people around them.
As a result, the man can't even get together the bride price for marriage, everything is to coax the woman, let her have a child, and tie her up with the child.
Employees often fantasize that their bosses can pay more and give them more personal time.
But the truth is that once bosses discover cheaper, more obedient labor, employees with illusions are often the first to be laid off.
As for the boss, they fantasize that employees will take the least amount of money, do the most work, stay in the company honestly for a lifetime, and don't think about changing jobs.
But the result is usually that such a boss ends up with no one at his disposal, and there is no new person who is willing to work for the company.
In the final analysis, whether it is family affection, love or interest relationship, you have to be clear: no relationship in the world can give you a ticket for life.
When you start having unrealistic illusions about others, any move by others has the potential to push you into the abyss.
If the other person's behavior is in line with your heart, then you feel that the world is still quite beautiful.
But if the other person's behavior makes you feel cold, at that moment, you may even want to get rid of that person.
People are selfish in their bones.
So, when you invest in a relationship, you have to be mentally prepared that you may not get anything back in the end.
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However, what is heart-wrenching is that in each encounter, those who are more willing to give are usually not ordinary people.
They are either bosses, rich people, or especially good from a young age.
In daily life, when dealing with people, many people always want to ask for it and complain about why others don't give them more.
Even between husband and wife, some people want to squeeze each other dry, and there are not a few such people.
They just don't understand that each of us comes into this world as a person, and we have to walk on our own roads to grow up, and we are all alone when we finally leave.
The only thing that can make others remember us is the spirit of continuous effort and unremitting pursuit of personal growth.